Ask Me Help Desk - Annoying sibilings

Hello,

I have a brother who's 8 years old, and another 3 year old. My brother is annoying!! If I don't hit him in the head then something will be wrong in my day. He makes a lot of trouble, specially with my little sister, he HAS to talk back, and he has no respect to neither me or my older siblings. My mom has had enough of him because he doesn't listen to her, he sips juice boxes and hide them behind the cushions in the sofa!! How annoying is that?? And if he spills water somewhere he doesn't care wiping it, and he doesn't think that someone may slip on it and cause serious injury specially my mom who's getting weaker by the day.

All in all, HE DOESN'T CARE AT ALL. My little sister is already learning his attitude, he calls annoying names and my little is learning them. THIS IS BAD!! AND IT'S GETTING WORSE!! AND I CAN'T HELP HITTING HIM, MY HAND HURTS BUT HE DOESN'T FEEL THE PAIN WITH THAT STONED HEAD!!

I'M SORRY BUT I'VE SERIOUSLY HAD ENOUGH...

Thank you and I hope someone gets me a solution for this hell I'm living... :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Maybe if you stopped hitting him simply because you can, being older and presumably bigger, he would have more respect for you.

How old are you? Where is your father in this family drama?

I'm sure you know it's dangerous to hit people in the head to the extent that it hurts your hand. If you injure him you could be in serious legal trouble, whether he doesn't listen and is a pest.

Are there no adults - relatives, clergymen, teachers - you can talk to?

I'm 14 years old, and my dad is always at work. No one has a good relation ship with him, and what's getting on my nerves is that my little brother acts like he's innocent in front of him, but my dad doesn't know him. My mom says ignore but that doesn't seem to work because SHE doesn't ignore HIM. I won't him him in the head again I promise I won't. But he has to have more manners! I tried speaking without shouting to him when telling him to do something, I repeat what I say more than 20 times, but he doesn't listen. Then I get no other choice but shouting at him and hitting him. Because nothing seems to work with him.

Have you tried any games with them?

PLAY with them instead of trying to be the adult.

You could try a game called 'crazy manners'

Everyone gets a turn to be in charge,the object of the game to to ask someone to to something like hop on one leg for the count of ten but you have to say 'please',the next person has to make funny faces for the count of twenty,but you have to say 'please',you get two chances to say 'no thanks' if you forget to say please you skip a go.

Again play games that include team work,show respect to everyone,everyone gets a fair go,no gets excluded,if you don't play nice yo ucant play until you say sorry.

Hitting won't work as it is only teaching them that's hitting is how you get attention.

Give positive praise and I bet you will see results soon.

You can play the 'crazy manner' game at meals times too,for example... can you set the table but you have to take baby steps PLEASE.

Use your imagination,make up games,make up forts to play in,play dress up and go outside to play.

Your not the adult here,and you don't have to be,you can the best sister/brother there is,so when your siblings grow up they will have lots of stories of how great you were,not about how hard you hit them.

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Originally Posted by redhed35

have you tried any games with them?

PLAY with them instead of trying to be the adult.

you could try a game called 'crazy manners'

everyone gets a turn to be in charge,the object of the game to to ask someone to to something like hop on one leg for the count of ten but you have to say 'please',the next person has to make funny faces for the count of twenty,but you have to say 'please',you get two chances to say 'no thanks' if you forget to say please you skip a go.

again play games that include team work,show respect to everyone,everyone gets a fair go,no gets excluded,if you dont play nice yo ucant play untill you say sorry.

hitting wont work as it is only teaching them thats hitting is how you get attention.

give postive praise and i bet you will see results soon.

you can play the 'crazy manner' game at meals times too,for example...can you set the table but you have to take baby steps PLEASE.

use your imagination,make up games,make up forts to play in,play dress up and go outside to play.

your not the adult here,and you dont have to be,you can the best sister/brother there is,so when your siblings grow up they will have lots of stories of how great you were,not about how hard you hit them.

Well, thank you very much and I will try this for sure, thanks for your time :)