i.ve been married for 8 years now, and my husband came here 5 years ago, so we have been separated for five years, during those years he didn't want me to work , he wanted me to take care of the kids, it didn't matter at first then it became boarring, he was so controlling, I was not suppose to go out , or go to school, have friends, see my familly, it was terrible after five years I came here with my daughter , since two years that I'm here he keep drinking screeming, and saying all is my fault , he can't make things work because I don't want to follow his rule, I've gone to the police twice but the truth is I have two kids , I wanted things to work, I didn't want him to think I came here to leave him, everyday is its worst, telling me how I can't keep the house clean, I do two job because we pay all the bills fifty fifty, I have to pay the day care of my kids for me to go to work, he is sending messages to his girls friends on face book, he brought a girl home I didn't know she knows him and he told me we need a room mate, when I discovered he sais he don't regret it , when I was back home the said I was have a boy friend, he doesn't want to divorce, because he said he spent his money for five years and he brought me here, I can't afford to pay 2 beds room, the little money I work doesn't allow me to have insurance,. I can't write all I just need to know how to get out, I can't leave him my kids cz he is irresponsible and violent, I can go to police cz I'm scare, I just want to know what the best way for me to do
If there is somebody who went through this one day I will like to know how the made their ways out
Thanks

I found this --

SAFETY ALERT!

Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233).

You are in an abusive, violent, unsafe environment- so too are your children.

If you think, as you said, that staying with him is the best thing for them, it is not.

Help is a phone call away. Use the phone number Alty posted above this post. Get yourself together, and become educated as to what your resourses are, and then come up with a plan.

To keep your children in this situation is abhorrent. For you to stay and choose to subject them to this, is putting them in harms way.

Time to stop complaining about your situation, and get out and do something about it. Your children should be your first priority, please step up and take care of them, by taking care of yourself.

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

Use the phone number Alty posted above this post.

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I'm WG.

Let us know somehow you and your chidren are safe.

Sorry Wondergirl. :o

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

Sorry Wondergirl. :o

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*wiping away the tears* Gulp. It's okay, Jake. I'll be fine. Really I will. *wiping more tears* Thanks for your apology.

OP if you are still living with this Man please know you are in serious danger, so are you're children he is a bully he is an abuser, and any and all abusers can seriously damage not only your health but that of your children, Please do not ignore the posts in this thread, they all want to help you.

Below is a website link you can contact for help it offers advice in 60 languages, so should also cover yours.

Please contact and take notice of what they advise you, do this as soon as you can safely, when your partner is out at work, or similar don't tell him what you're doing, and don't let anyone you aren't sure of know, just go when he's at work, but please go soon.

This is the link.

Info in 60 langauges