I am 5months pregnant, I had an unplanned pregnancy. I tried to make things work with the father but it just wasn't possible. I don't trust his with the baby I feel that he will try to take the baby from me. He has a wreckless drug addicted past and is still doing certain drugs and I don't trust him. I have met his family and don't trust them to be around the baby alone. I want him to sign over his rights. I don't want any money from him I culd care less about child support and I'm not trying to keep his away from our child. I just don't trust that he wouldn't try to take the baby away from me just to hurt me or upset me. I don't know what to do if there is anything I can do at this time or if I just have to sit around and wait till the baby comes to take action. This is a very scary situation to be in and I relly just want what's best for the baby.

I am going through the same situation right now. The only thing I know is... You don't have to name a father. Without being named as the father he will have no rights to the child. You can still have him over to see the child on your time and in your presence. Honestly, woman-to-woman, your not going to want a drug-addict to be anywhere near your child after he/she is born. Once you hold that baby in your arms your going to do nothing else but protect it. If you do not want child support or anything like that from him, don't name him as the father and no one but you will have rights. And there is no way anyone can take that child away from you.

Simple answer is no you can't do it. There is a sticky on the top of this board for further information. There has been this same question thousands of times and its just not true.

Even if you don't name him on the birth certificate, he can file in court for visits, not naming him does not take any of his rights away.

If you file for custody and prove he is a threat to the child, you could make him get only supervised visits

It's amazing how guys who have a "wreckless drug addicted past, and are still doing certain drugs" are all right to have sex with, but not all right to be the father of your child.

YOU chose to have sex with him. Now you get to have interaction with him for the next 18 years. If you didn't want that, you shouldn't have had sex with him.

You can have his rights taken away ONLY if he is a danger to the child. You have to PROVE that he is a danger to the child.

File for full physical custody and child support (because he should be supporting his child, not the taxpayers) once the baby is born, and wait to see what happens from there.

You can leave him off the birth certificate, but that will only work if a) he doesn't want anything to do with the child and b) you don't apply for public assistance. If he wants to be part of the baby's life, he can go to court to enforce his rights. If you do apply for public assistance, you will be required to name the father (or potential fathers).

You say you could "care less about child support". Does that mean you are financially able to provide everything for the child? If not, do you realize you may be shortchanging your child by not going for support?

Finally, I have to comment on; "I had an unplanned pregnancy". In my opinion there is no such thing as an unplanned pregnancy. If you have sexual intercourse then you are risking having a child. And, as Synnen asked, why was this person OK to have sex with but not have a baby with? You have made some questionable decisions with your life and its possible your baby may suffer for your mistakes.

The bottom line here is, if he wants to be part of the child's life, he can force it unless you can prove he presents a danger to the child. That will be very hard to prove. You need to consult an attorney about what few options you have.

I didn't know about his drug problem until after I found out I was pregnant we were only togethr for 3weeks I found out I was pregnant a month and a half after not talking to him because I found out what type of person he was. I'm not trying to get sympathy from anyone and its entirely my fault I got pregnant by such a loser but I just don't want my child to suffer from my stupid mistakes. I thought he was going to be a great dad but 2months after knowing I was pregnant he still hasn't changed and he's fine with not being around for the baby he just saw this prenancy as another chance for us. I don't want anyone fake loving my child just to be with me I went through that with my parents and I will not repeat the cycle. Just because I didn't plan this pregnancy I'm not going to give it an excuse to ruin my child's life.