OK so I hang out with some friends but I'm like always the one quiet and left out like a loner I hate it I have nothing to say and my friends always ask why won't you talk its so annoying I want to talk but there is nothing to say I have no idea what to say about on what there talking about I guess I just a boring person and no one can help me I'm hopeless I guess ill be the shyest one
To me I feel they hate me being quiet I just can't find what is right to say and I can never be funny ]:
Please help me

Not everyone is funny,or talkative,no one would listen if that was the case.

Do you listen?

Do you perfer to listen?

It's a fantastic quality to have and many people struggle to really listen to what someone is saying.

In groups,social settings its just mainly small talk.. thats something you can try being better at.

Watch the news,read the paper,even if your not interested in politics etc,there's always a quirky story or funny story you can tell.

Think about your own childhood,any funny memories?

I bet your friends don't think your boring at all.

Have you ever read about body language?

Its something that's really interesting and will give you great insights into what's going on with people during conversations.

Next time someone says why don't to say much,you can always say, you prefer to listen.

A lot people can't stand the silence or their own thoughts,love the sound of their own voice,and don't want to listen to anyone else,so just talk and talk and talk... now that's boring!

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Originally Posted by redhed35

do you listen?

do you perfer to listen?

its a fantastic quality to have and many people struggle to really listen to what someone is saying.

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HUH:confused: did you say something?

Humor can be simply a small jib at friends,like this was(Hi red;) )

Confidence takes time and experiences,some of which you simply haven't had enough of yet.. allowing you to become you is part of growing up.don't rush it, life flies by sooner than you might imagine.

I found that the better informed I was with something,the more confidence I had in discussing it,the more I discussed it,the better I became in my outgoing personality,allowing me to express more of myself with less fear/apprehension.. that's when the humor began to fly:p

If I could do it all over again(with this being the focus of growth),I would study something I had a true interest in, could be anything from Racquetball to the signing of the Declaration of Independence, the actual topic isn't the issue,it would be the knowledge gained,the skills I develop in expressing the knowledge,and the confidence in which I gain by repeatedly presenting this information.

The 'humor' comes after I have the confidence to let my guard down(because I have confidence in me) and I can allow my humorous side to be free.

This is just my take on things from my life:)

Hope this helped,

KBC

You can try putting in little bits in the conversation, asking meaningful questions, small things till gradually you feel comfortable.

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Originally Posted by stella123

ok so i hang out with some friends but im like always the one quiet and left out like a loner i hate it i have nothing to say and my friends always ask why wont you talk its so annoying i wanna talk but there is nothing to say i have no idea what to say about on what there talking about i guess i just a boring person and no one can help me im hopeless i guess ill be the shyest one
to me i feel they hate me being quiet i just can't find what is right to say and i can never be funny ]:
please help me

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You say you are boring because you can't think of anythign to say. Is it possible that you really are boring because your hanging out with the wrong crowd and they don't engauge you? Its normal to dread a task if you don't like it and its normal to have passion about the ones you do. So maybe you don't fit in this group as well as you would like. Guess what? Nobody fits into every group. It usually takes like kind to be happy and comfortable. Do you really fear friendships with people you would like to hang out with? Im talking about the ones that make you think. The best way to gain humor in any situation is to be comfortable with yourself. Read some jokes and see if they make you laugh. Chances are you can find some pretty funny stuff if you look for it. Expand your line of thinking and you will be rewarded for it with the riches of life.