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  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:28 PM
    sy_ross
    forgiving your boyfriend's past sex life..
    Hi, so I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together for about 5 months now. And he's told me about his past relationships and so have I. He's slept with at least 8 girls and I've slept with 3 guys including him. Our relationship is really great. Were in a long distance relationship but we see each other every second weekend for 5 days. And recently he's told me that he has slept with two other girls. One on new years and the other one a week before we've started seeing each other. I feel gross and disgusting now. Like he's been with those girls and they've all got a chance to be part of something great. Like none of these girls were relationships at all either. They were either random or just drunk nights. So I don't know if I'm over reacting or not. I love him so much and I still want to be with him. But how can I get over all of those girls? Like they were before we dated but its like I'm just another one of those girls now. Like sex doesn't mean a thing to him or anything. I thought I had something special with him until I found this out. Idk if I still would've went out with him if I knew how many girls he's slept with. It's like I fell in love with a different person and then the next day woke up to a man whore. So how can I move on and forget his past? Should I talk to him about it. Like how I feel and stuff? Cause I've basically made a list of everything I feel when I think about how many girls he's slept with.
  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:32 PM
    Kitkat22

    The same way he will get over the guys you slept with. I certainly hope he and you used protection in your former relationships?
  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:34 PM
    positiveparent

    Sorry but you can't get over that many indescretions. He screws around like a tom cat on heat, so the best thing you can do it kick him into the litter box or curb either will do he should be right at home with the low life gutter brigade, Move on he's a waster, Find someone who can treat you right and keep his trousers on long enough to exchange first names.
  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:35 PM
    jmjoseph

    As long as he's been faithful to you, it's not your place to "forgive" him for something that he did before you were in the picture. You either accept him for who he is now, or let him go. There is no holding his past against him.

    You can no longer change the rotation of Earth itself, than to make his past sexual experiences go away.

    Don't blow the relationship over something you cannot change.

    Good luck.
  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:47 PM
    BWK10

    Your past is your past for a reason. We all have things we regret, it's not like he's screwed around while you two we're together. Just forget about it, and work on your relationship... don't let this one potentially be the "one that got away" over something like this.
  • Jul 14, 2010, 05:49 PM
    louise23
    Hi I am in a similar situation at the moment, I'm 23 and only slept with 4 guys all of which were relationships, but my boyfriend has slept with at least 15 of which I know about he's 26, I was like yourself a bit disguisted. Still now nearly a year on I thin the same but the way I deal with it is that I know he loves me and what we share is a special bond. And slag him off for it to be very truthful, IE call him a whore, if you are surviving a lond distance relationship than you definitely have something special and thatss worth a hundred time more than some floozy slut haha hope this helps
  • Jul 15, 2010, 11:10 PM
    sy_ross
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  • Jul 17, 2010, 10:38 AM
    talaniman

    Maybe it's the distance between you, and your fear of what he may be doing, that's influencing how you feel. If you let those feelings turn into needy, insecure and impulsive actions they will cause more problems than they solve.

    Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

    Handle This: Seven Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship | The Frisky

    Maybe these articles will bring you some better understanding.
  • Dec 6, 2011, 05:34 AM
    Amelia12
    I am in your exact situation! My boyfriend has slept with seventeen girls, all one night stands and short term ex girlfriends, and I have only slept with two guys including my boyfriend. He was an ******* who only wanted sex and that's it. But with me he has been faithful, treated me amazing and changed into this amazing man! I'm 21 and trust me, lovie, if he is treating you with respect, sweet, giving you everything that you need in a relationship, he is a keeper! Don't let his past ruin something that can be more than great! I almost let my boyfriend's past ruin us, but we are still together. Try to forget about it because he did not care about those girls. He cares about YOU and you only! All those girls have is his past, a one night stand, but you have his future. Remember that and trust me, it will start to get better((: Those other girls were just a screw, but with you I'm sure it's something more. Something more than sex itself. That's the way it is with my boyfriend/soon to be fiancé so just try to look at everything in a positive way! I hope this helped!

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