I'm a 28 year old guy. I play all the right games with girls like hard-to-get, etc. but nothing seems to be working. What's going on here??
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I'm a 28 year old guy. I play all the right games with girls like hard-to-get, etc. but nothing seems to be working. What's going on here??
If what you are doing isn't working time and time again, maybe you should change your approach.
Only crazy people do the same thing over and over again hoping to get a different result ;)
I keep attracting girls that go from way into me, to not at all into me. What's up with that?
Obviously whatever it is you're doing isn't working, Perhaps you need to stop using tactics and start just being yourself.
Go with the flow...
It means stop playing games and be yourself.
You answered your own question - you're approaching women with "all the right games". I for one run like an olympic contender when a guy starts games with me.
Don't cast such a wide net to get as many women as you can. Be thoughtful about what kind of women would be good partners for you, and selectively get to know those who have potential marriage potential for you. Then just get to know them. Spare the games and tricks - just invite her for dinner or coffee, make the effort to get to know her and take things slow and don't treat her like a piece of meat. Pay attention to the cues she gives you and don't make everything about sex.
Quality women will notice if you listen to them, answer their questions, are attentive, are focused on them when they are speaking to you. They will also notice if you've asked out all their friends, are looking over their shoulder at every woman who walks in the door, or if you are just packaging your remarks to get her into bed. You don't want a cheap woman I would think, so don't use a cheap approach.
Hmmm.. that seems a little vague.
Maybe your playing to hard to get,maybe your playing games and they know,maybe its time to just be you and see what results you get.
The majority of women can pick up if a guy is playing games,and most don't have the time nor energy to facilitate them,and they quickly move on.
What's wrong with just being you,without the games,without playing hard to get?
Games don't work, unless you want a superficial meaningless relationship with a ditz.
You're 28, time to be yourself and stop trying to be something you're not. Girls aren't stupid, we see right through the games, and the majority don't stick around after that.
Do you want a woman to play games with you? Usually if you play games, you end up with someone who is playing a different game.
As has been said, be yourself. Get involved in things that you can meet women who have the same interests you do. Start on common ground.
Edited to add forgotten word-meet.
Obviously you're playing too hard to get and that really doesn't appeal to women in the least.
It mostly means you rate yourself too highly.
Most will just leave you to your games and won't bother wanting to "get" you...
It will also give the impression you're superficial, so just be yourself, and see what happens if you haven't already got a bad rep for being full of it.
seriously? 28yr old guy playing hard-to-get... ok first the hard-to-get "MAY" work on certain women and that's only if you're really hard-to-get material (flithy rich, vastly popular, extremely handsome).. if that even works at all.
Just be yourself obviously if that doesn't work then nothing else will, faking your personality wouldn't get you anywhere we can detect a faker.. so my suggestion is get a dog or a cat or just simply lower your expectations as to what your fantasy girl should look like. =)
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Originally Posted by positiveparent
If being yourself is to vague to understand, then playing games won't help. Maybe you need an idea of who you are, instead of convincing someone who you ain't.Quote:
qsilver000 : hmmm.. that seems a little vague.
You ain't a player, so drop the games, and keep it real.
What were you expecting? Advice on how to be a player? Wrong place! You can keep doing what your doing and keep getting the same results, or take the advice and see if it makes a difference.
Its either your approach, or the females you choose. May be both. Maybe its what your trying to accomplish which seems to be just to get over and on to the next.
Do you have a clue as to what you want? You have not expressed that. Only the games you play, which is what everyone has advised you to stop.
Want advice on how to be a player? PM me for that. However, I can guarantee you that you'll be picking up drama queens with more issues than the New York Times that will last maybe a month or two.
Want advice on how to get a nice girl that's actually intelligent and will treat you well... be yourself.
... I'm a 24 year old guy, and even I know that.
Just the title why aren't i getting good success with women? Is a big turn off.
What the heck does success with women mean?
To answer your reply to this post, your threads were probably merged because they are dealing with the same issue-you, dating/relationships and women.Quote:
Originally Posted by qsilver000
Give us some more background and maybe you will get more than 'bumper sticker' quotes.
We can't give specific advice if all we are given is a self-help book title.
Totally agree
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