I am a father of 2 children (age 18 and 15). In 2004 their Mother and I divorced. I have been paying child support of $2000.00/month from Feb 2004 until Nov 2009. I have not had any contact with my son at all. My Daughter who is 18 has very little contact with me and when she does contact me, she calls me "Sperm Donor", "", "" and other chioce words. I loved my children very much, but the Mother has alienated myself, my parents, my sister and their cousins. As of Nov 2009 I REFUSED to pay child support until my Ex wife corrects this mess. Do I have any rights at all? At this point and time I would like to relinquish ALL my parental rights and obligations based on the fact that I am not treated as a Father. Do I have any options? Case and point... Its like I am paying for a service and not receiving anything...

I have question why you want contact with a daughter that has probably been brain washed very badly against you... sperm donor... I would disown her for that alone. I don't blame you. Yes, you have rights, but you have to go back to the courts to get it straightened out. That's probably what this whole mess, as you describe it, needs.

Stick

Have you had regular vistation with your children since 2004?

It's sad, but sometimes parents do brainwash their children, but regular visitation with your children may have helped curb this years ago.

First, you are asking a legal question so this has been moved from the Children forum. Please take more care in choosing which forum to post in.

Second, You will not be able to relinquish your rights. Only a court can terminate parental rights and they will not do so under the circumstances.

Third, you do not have the right to stop child support and you will get in trouble with the courts by doing so (assuming the support was court ordered). The law and the courts keep visitation and support as separate items independent of each other. I hope you have, at least, been paying your support into a bank account so you won't be caught when you have to pay the arrears.

What you have left out of your post is very critical information. You haven't told us what court orders are in place. You haven't told us what visitation was awarded in the divorce. You haven't told us what you have done from the time of the divorce to enforce the visitation. There are usually two sides to a story and we are only hearing one side here.

To help you we need to know more and to understand why your ex and children are so against you.

Another thing Id like to add...

If your support is court ordered then you need to get it modified depending on your state because one of your children has reached the age of 18. So at this point if your state ( the one the order is in has the 18y/o limitation) then you should only be paying for one child.

You do owe all the back support and the ex can come after that.

Also treating the kids that way, stopping seeing them because of anger with the mother is a poor sign of being a parent and will not look good in court. Also stop paying is going to look bad.

To re-inforce any rights, you will need to go back to court, they will most likely want to see plan to start repaying all back support, they may even require counseling before you would be allowed visits with the kids.

But sorry you get mad and walk away, and then years latter wonder why they call you names,?