I am a 22 year old female, engaged, and completely in love with my fiancé. But I have a problem. I can be in the greatest mood and out of no where, he can do something so minor and I will lose my mind, walk out, and even have resorted to hitting him. The last episode was because he didn't return a call because he was working on his car. I lost my mind. Screaming, yelling, then ignoring him, even after he appologized and explained it was because he was under his car. I wouldn't sleep in the same room as him, and was completely disrespectuful to him. In the morning I woke up and was crying because the punishment did not fit the crime, well there was no crime to begin with. I don't know why I flip out over something so minor, or why I don't realize it till later. Ive looked around the idea of bipolar but it doesn't fit. I don't know what to do.

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Ive looked around the idea of bipolar but it doesn't fit

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Can you further this reason please.

In times of anger,I don't often think things out.Only later do I realize that I over reacted to the given situation and regret happens.Hindsight being 20/20.

Self-awareness plays a big roll here.

Instead of reacting,taking inventory of what we are about to do,keeping track of our moods/emotions.It isn't easy.It isn't something done immediately.It IS something that needs practice and more practice.We have to learn how to cope with the outbursts before we do something regretful.

Do you drink alcohol much?Any drug use?

Both of them can and will contribute to outbursts and variable feelings and moods.

Back to you:)

The reason I think that bi polar doesn't fit is because it says there are usually 4 episodes a year.. I flip out like this on a daily basis... over the smallest ridiculous things. Other people have said it could be bi polar, and other people joke and

Hi crazy mind,

Can you please use the 'quick answer' box on the bottom of the page for responses,this way others can follow the conversation.

I am going to copy your comment to me on here so others can also get a feel for what it is you are going through.

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the reason I think that bi polar doesn't fit is because it says there are usually 4 episodes a year.. I flip out like this on a daily basis... over the smallest ridiculous things. Other people have said it could be bi polar, and other people joke and

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What 'other people' think/say,etc.doesn't make for a professional diagnosis,not even what I comment on would make it a professional diagnosis.Only seeking a real doctors opinion will you know for sure if you might be suffering from bi-polar disorder.

Self diagnosis(and in my case)self medicating,to deal with the 'problems' I had resulted in less than ideal results.Misery while married, not just for me,her and the kids,and all my coworkers from time to time.

Just because the 'basic model' of bipolar disorder doesn't fit your situation like a glove doesn't mean there isn't help out there for you.You have to be willing to SEEK that help.. online people,such as I am,can assist you in finding the way,but you have to take the reigns and get there on your own.

This stuff you have described has bothered you enough to write on this site.Has it bothered you enough to go get the help I(and perhaps others, if they see the thread) suggest?

Opinion:You seem to be going through rapid cycles from high anxiety and outbursts to regret and slight depression.. but that's just my take from a few words.Only a professional with you and TIME on a face to face could properly diagnose you and what you might be going through.

Again,please use the big box at the bottom of the screen for future comments,it allows for a lot more dialog.:)

Ken

Sorry for using the wrong box, I am very new to this. And Thank you for taking your time to answer my questions. I will go see someone but what kind of doctor is it actually.. therapist? Psychiatrist? Psychologist? Very confused. Thank you again so much

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Originally Posted by crazy_mind

sorry for using the wrong box, i am very new to this. and Thank you for taking your time to answer my questions. I will go see someone but what kind of doctor is it actually.. therapist? psychiatrist? psychologist? very confused. thank you again so much

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The site is in a transition right now,so you using the comment box isn't out of the question lately... :)It's all good.

The 'kind' of doctor to start with would be a counselor,perhaps one who is included in a larger facility, where they have the other fields represented as well,so you can have one place to go for all your services.

That is where I found things to be easiest on me.Once involved in one area,therapy,I was then introduced to doctors,other therapists, counselors,group therapy,etc.I found there I could choose what I wanted to participate in or not.

I think they will help you understand the flow of emotions better than any online experience can, I can only really describe what I did to get where I am today,, I am no professional,just one of those on the other side of the desk:p

IF!, you want to end the chaos you are in, seek this help, it changed my entire life, I'll bet it can your's as well.

KBC

I agree to seek counseling. They can help figure out where it comes from. If it is a diagnosable issues such as bi polar, they will be able to assess. But it could be as simple as trust issues. Let someone listen to you who is trained to ask the right questions to understand better. I always follow the 24 hour rule. When I get that mad, I will wait 24 hours to talk about it, then I will be more rational. You can let someone know you are upset but let it go for a day and see how you feel. It's a good rule. :)