Ok here's the thing my this girl I was with about a year OK liked me a lot and I've know her since I was a freshman in high school well I moved to her school last year my jr year and played football I didn't really have time for a girlfriend then when the time was right... BOOM rejected so she stayed mad at me this was around December now we've been talking a lot, well just recently there was a party we were both there and I left earlier then her well she got drunk and fooled around with two of my friends and the next morning when I found out and told her how bad that hurt I got a ton of apology text and calls and this past weekend she invited me to the lake with her family who love me like I've said I've know this girl for awhile me and her dad are best friends, anyway she was real lovey dovey with me but when I wanted to be lovey dovey with her it wasn't right and an old x called me and she got, so finally I told her if she wanted to be friends we wernt takeing naps anymore or anything that a couple would do and then she constantly would say sweet things to me and Try flirting and touching me, then the supriseing part she asked me HOW BAD I WANTED A GIRLFRIEND!! I got confused and said um I don't know she then said well that's not a good answer so I repleied badly them that was all then later I texted her and asked about her question she then said I just wanted to know if any other girl was in the picture I'm so lost someone please help me!! I care a lot about this girl

Although you like her should not allow anyone to mistreat you. People only do what you allow. If you ignore her she will come running or not. If not, at least you will stop wasting time on her.

I don't think you have had very many girlfriends, or you would know they make you wait before they respond. What's troubling though guy, is she rejected you before, and I think you are cursed with the friend zone label.

One thing that stands out is before you didn't have time for a girlfriend, and now that YOUR ready, she doesn't seem to be, and is having her fun which is ticking you off. You couldn't MAKE time before, and now you want her to make time for what you want. I can understand her hesitating at that notion, but think you waiting around expecting her to come around is a waste of time.

Maybe a few days and then you better talk, and clear this up because I think you have had many opportunities to express yourself, and be very clear, and not confused. I feel you missed your chance, and may have to accept the fact she may NOT be as interested as before and may be unwilling to stop having her fun, and make time for you. You never know, but leave her alone for a few days and see what she thinks.

Generally if her mind is NOT made up by now, it never will be. At least about you anyway.

Thanks, I apreciate the advice the thing is I mentioned that party she did a lot of wrong things at then how bad she felt, and then how she was extreamly sorry. So was maybe this trip with her family a way of making her feel better or is maybe she trying to get close again! I have been with plenty of girls and have learned to reconise the signs of I'm into you and there all there.

I have the feeling she wants me in her life again but she's scared to let me back in, so should I just leave her alone and move on because it will be very hard for me she's an important person in my life

Here's some things she does around me when were in her car we listen to love songs like Taylor swift or just anything that a couple would listen to, she calls me baby honey and names like that, she ask me to help her with things like hang picture frames in her room, she always offeres me things before her, and she wants me around her but when I don't give her that "attention" she wants back she tries touching me or telling me I can lay on her so I'm just stuck in a rut, because she's very hard to figure out

But as you have written, when you talk directly of what you want she backs off. Maybe she is afraid that you won't always have time for her, and that's reasonable because you made her a low priority before, which I don't understand either, and I played football, and was involved in many sports during high school, but I still had an active social life.

When football season comes up again, (next month for us here) will you then not have time as before? What will have changed? So I am sure she feels that when you are into your sport you will again make her a low priority, so who can blame her for protecting herself? AGAIN!!

That's true and football is a mojor step in my life I'll be a senior and I want this year to really top the record books,but I've already informed her that this years going to be different just because I'm a multiple athlete it didn't mean I couldn't make time for her.( yes football has started here)

So how should I resolve this problem I'm dealing with.

Your being really resourceful and apreciate it thanks for the info

You may just want to give her a chance to move on. And yourself. If you both are getting older, soon it will be time to think about college , etc. You two might not follow the same paths in life. If she truly means so much, there is nothing saying you two can't be friends, but you might want to sit her down and just talk about it maturely, face-to-face. Because many people hear the advice that its important for a guy to respect his girl, but its true the other way around. You deserve respect as well, and she may or may not be respecting you. If she truly cares, then you should be able to talk to her and get a mature response. Just be careful that she isn't being clingy or just afraid of losing a friend.

Leave her alone. She's playing you like a violin. Don't let her use you anymore. Tell her to back off and not contact you anymore.

You resolve your problem by making time to have fun with your friend and others and enjoy your senior year.

Don't think that the idea of you leaving her life after this year hasn't crossed her mind. Sure it has, and a feeling of being eventually left behind, or pushed aside for higher priorities will always be a wedge between you. That would make taking a risk with her heart something to think about, and she is. So share the good times and be remembered as a fun, good guy and don't press for a forever love and romance thing that only ends in hurt.

Look, no one has a clue what she will say or do next about you, but you can enjoy the experience of sharing, or you can take the disappointment of not getting what you want, and gain nothing from it.

That would be up to you. How you approach the challenges you face will depend on what you do about whatever happens, not only in this instance, but other challenges as well, and there will be a lot more to come.

Be happy... Do good in football and then go to College and after that play for the Saints or the Colts.

There will be many girls you'll meet and if it's meant to be with this girl it will happen. Have fun young man... be happy and safe.

Thank you all so much I've got my mind right now, and yes kitkat22 I'm a saints fan but thank you all mainly talaniman for your help I will have a face to face descusion with her and if the outcome is still friends I can move on

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Thank you all so much iv got my mind right now, and yes kitkat22 I'm a saints fan but thank you all mainly talaniman for your help I will have a face to face descusion with her and if the outcome is still friends I can move on

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Good for you!! ;)