I've been with my boyfriend for a long time now. We've done all the simple thing's like holding hands, cuddeling, kissing and making out. But I want to go slightly further without having sex or oral sex. When we kiss or make out, he holds me close to him, but he get's really paranoid if his hand goes anywhere near my bum, breasts, or between my leg's. I want him to want to touch me, and be comfortable. I try to tell him that I don't mind it and it's fine. How do I get him to touch me and feel comfortable with it? Do I try touching him first? Please help:)

How old are you?

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

How old are you?

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Same question. :)

I'm 15 :)

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Originally Posted by relliott27

i'm 15 :)

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We're a very responsible site. We cannot legally or morally give you advice on sex or sexually related activities at your age.

When you're 18, no problem. Until then, I hope you stay safe and don't grow up too fast. :)

Stop it already.. You're fifteen. Go see Harry Potter or something. Forget about sex. You are way to young.

I think you should wait. I grew up too fast in that regard. You may think that you don't want to have oral sex or intercourse now, but, more often than not the touching will lead to those things. Be smart and make the right decisions. I know you probably want to feel close to him and you want to feel like you are desired, but you don't need to get physical to feel that way. Chances are that he just doesn't think it's a good idea, and probably has enough respect for you not t push it. I think that you should do the same.

You say you've been together for a while, but when you're 15, only 3 months can be a while. Please use smart judgement on this. I'm closer to your age, so I know how it feels, I'm only 5 years older than you. I can assure you that when I first chose to make that kind of decision that it was a bad idea. And unfortunately it never seems like it until afterward. Be healthy and enjoy what you have now. It's unfair for you to expect more from him.

I commend your boyfriend. He is trying to protect you and him. This should make you like him even more. He respects you, and that's a fabulous thing!

I am only 7 years older than you, and remember being where you are.
Just know that once you make a decision to engage in sexual activities, it is forever. You can't take it back, you can't forget it. Just because you've been with this boy for "a while" doesn't mean that you will always be with this boy... what happens with the next boyfriend? Or the next? Every time you engage in sexual activity with someone you are giving away a little piece of yourself. Be prepared for that.

Just be 15. Enjoy it. Have fun. THANK your boyfriend for being so sweet and respectful.
:) When the time comes, and you are ready-you'll understand what all of us are telling you.

Have him do it when he is ready , used to be the same way. The time will come

Want to do more with him... The do more with him... Go to the movies... Go out to dinner... Go have a picnic... Go camping in the back yard.

Your 15 act it. Don't push yourself to grow up. I know being around a boy you like you get a lot of urges but these urges can disappear if you keep yourselves busy... Even just cuddling while watching TV!

Don't try to grow up to fast. Enjoy being young. He sounds responsible. Sounds like a decent guy. Don't spoil it by being just another easy mark.

Well, Ya everybody says your 15, and act it and don't do what your not suppose to.. I agree! But, If u want him to do more with u, just tell him how you feel. Tell him you want to do some things, but maybe not sex or oral. Just don't rush into things too. If he does not want to do anything, then that's that! Good Luck.
P.s. Trust me I felt the same way and its totally natural to feel this way. Don't don't do anything you'll regret!