How Do I get Over My Child's Mother?? (I'm becoming obsessive!)
Hi, My name is James. I am 23 years old and have a 2 year old son. My son's mother and I have been broken up for roughly a year and recently we began hanging out and re-sparking the old flame. Ultimately after a week or two, we once again realized that it would be best if we just stayed separated, BUT, I can't stop obsessing over who she's with or what she's doing. She gave me her password to unlock her laptop a month ago and I memorized it. I had just left her from dropping off my son one night and I used this same password to log in to her e-mail and I basically found what I hope I didn't find. NAKED PICTURES that she sent to another man. I checked the date and it was very recent. AFTER finding that, I can't stop checking her e-mail, I even used the same password to log in to her cell phone online account and low and behold she uses the same password for everything. Now before I realize what is actually happening to me, I find myself on spokeo (the person finder web-site) analyzing every detail to discover who this person is, while comparing the phone number to the name to the e-mail address the naked pics were sent to. IDK what to do or how to get out of this!! This obsession is consuming me and I know its not a healthy one either. Aside from the average case of post break-up jealousy, I torment myself by snooping through her accounts and I want it to STOP! So Basically what I'm asking is how do I get her to change her password without actually telling her that Im a obsessive stalking snooper... smh. And by the way, a little advice on how to avoid ever doing this again or what my problem may be would also be a great help. THANK YOU