I just came here in Denmark for 1 month ago like a professional designer worker and I would love to sponsor my fiancé to come here so we can get marry, but thing look difficult because my sister family are not accept him just because he is not that kind of what they want, he is French Canadian, very kindly and good person ( I am compliment not because he is my fiance) But one thing problem is money, he is not a rich person, that why my sister family don't have good thinking about him...
He want to to come to visit me at this September but my sister's family not accept him to come to stay at their house ( where I am stay in at this moment... ) so he is looking for a house for rent or very cheap hotel to stay in about two weeks during time waiting for some new from commune about married step by step...
In fact, my story is like that: I have 3 kids with my ex husband and my fiancé are divorced without kid, he lives in Canada and want to sponsor me to there too, but I would like to stay in Denmark, because I love the weather and people here, and even the system of social... Perfect!
My mom love him very much but especial my sister's family even compliment him everything but they don't like to see me to be with a poor guy... I don't have to worry about that because I know he is working hard, and very good person, and ready to be with me no matter what happens and difficult about the future, just married because love are pure and we are soulmate, first time in real Love.
We are looking for his job here, he is going to quit his job in Canada, but I am worry if its so difficult for him, seems not easy to find a job without Dansk language... my contract are available to let me stay here for 2 years but I am worry how about after 2 years if they not want to sign my new contract then maybe I will get out of Denmark as well? How about if my fiancé ( husband) got a job in Denmark at that time can he sponsor me back or what? I am so confusing and messing, my mood are so boring for everything now, first because my sister house are very larger but my fiancé can not stay here while he come to Visit me for 1 or 2 weeks, so sad and I told him already the reason why he can not stay here even 1 second, he was so angry and said that he never see that kind of family in his life... But I can not have any comment right now because my sister family are not want to accpt him, and everything now I am and my kids are depen at them, about foods and everything at the first time... so if he comes here, I even can not visit him, can not stay with him if I don't want to get trouble from my sister's family, he told me that I should to get out of Denmark to go to Canada with him but I still want to try a life in Denmark, but have a big wall like that, so what I should do, I am so sad, because the day of apoitment with commune are coming soon at this Sept but I know that they not allow me to get out of this house, if I get out then will very difficult to come back, so I can not get out of this house to live with him while he stay at the hotel, well, I can not lend them car for him too, lol, of course, even my sister's family has 4 cars, I don't have a driver license yet, so how can I visit him? By bus at 12 pm? I am always at the store till 8 pm, after come back are preparing for dinner till 10 pm and doing home work and then get in bed about 12 pm till 1 am, I even don't have time to talk to him, he is so sad too, I don't know why I having that kind of life, what I should do, please help, just give me any advise... Thank all

My sister family means my Sister and her husband

Its quite apparent while you are on someone else's dime, you have to go along with their plan even if you don't get what you want, when you want. I think you and your boyfriend need a better plan that doesn't put every one out of their own routine, so you can be kissy face for a few weeks, simply because neither of you can afford it.

Your family has given you and your children a place to stay, and to expect them to accommodate your boyfriend to may be stretching the family gratitude.

You, and your boyfriend, need a better plan, and if he is that broke, he should save his money for a better day. I agree with your family, if he cannot afford to pay his way, and have a vacation with you he should stay at home. You can't make someone share what they have to accommodate your friends, when they are helping you. Sorry.

I could undrstand tou totally.it is lovely to faleen in love with somebody and finding a true love.instead of rushing to get married very quickly why you don't wait a little more to get everybody settle down and you could make chance to get to know him.you have got family.money is important.

Just give yourself a time.you are too much thinking now,you have give yourself thinking time to out of picture.

Thank you very much for your advice,but I don't think that money can be a wall for lovers, anyway, I am so worry, nothing new yet, but you are right...

I know that so difficult because I have my children already, but that's not my fault, I guess that everybody think that I better not marry him to let my children have a better life and that mea I will never marry anymore even around me lot of rich men

But that's really so sad, because I don't love them, I respect the basic value of love and I know that guy is the right man that can walk wit me till the fullest, so, marry him or not? Am I the one selfish if I let my children have to live with me..

I don't think that's rushig, but maybe it is, I really don't know how to do now? Should I delay while he do everything for me? Even quit his job just because love me?what I should do? If I leave him, I thik I am an animal brain without heart...