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  • Jul 6, 2010, 08:01 AM
    Isaiah91
    I'm in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend. I've told her how I feel?
    We've been friends for about a year now. The ironic thing is, it was her liking me in the first place that made us become such good friends. Last year, it was basically a text relationship, but it's changed this year into actually hanging out and stuff.
    I think I liked her from the start, I was just too scared to admit it. My feelings changed for her about February this year. I've been straight up with her from the beginning. I filled two journals full of poems for her. We share the books.
    A week ago, she and her boyfriend went through a really spot. She actually thought they were going to break up. She came to me, not any of her other mates. I thought-and so did she-that it might actually be the beginning of us. Of course, it wasn't. The next day, it was straight back to him. :(
    I've given up going it alone, so I decided to ask here. If there's anything else that you might need to know to help, just ask.
  • Jul 6, 2010, 08:08 AM
    redhed35

    As hard as it is to admit,she does not want you as her boyfriend,and most likely sees you as a good friend.

    Your love is unrequited.

    If you can remain friends and be content with that arrangement,but to date other girls and not wait for her,you will be happier.

    Start a new beginning,a separate life away fom this friendship,something that is just yours,a new hobbie,a new interest,if possible start no contact,I understand how difficult that may be,but it's the best way to get over her.
  • Jul 6, 2010, 08:46 AM
    Isaiah91
    *smiles weakly* Thought so...
  • Jul 6, 2010, 08:51 AM
    redhed35

    Its not as bad as it seems,there will be other girls,and maybe one really special one that will blow your mind, your first love is always special,but,its even better when they love you back.

    Hang on to that thought,there are loads of stickies in the relationship forum,there's wise words,tips and great stories of lost love,new love and happiness found,its worth a read.
  • Jul 6, 2010, 09:41 AM
    talaniman

    I hope you have learned to stay away from females that are unavailable, because they already have a boyfriend.

    You let your own feelings get in the way of what should have been common sense.
  • Jul 6, 2010, 09:52 AM
    Devorameira

    There's really nothing that you can do - she's already taken and isn't going to leave him for you.

    Best thing you can do is to date other girls and forget about her (in the romantic sense anyway).
  • Dec 22, 2011, 02:47 AM
    Lovely33
    As tough as it is, trust me I know, unrequited love is a gift really. It teaches you how to love and how to be rejected.
    So I'd say either come out and tell her how you feel and just once and for all see if there's a future instead of wondering. Or, you can go on and be her good friend just hoping one day she'll change her mind.
    Best of luck!

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