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k, so this guy and I were going out for almost a year, and we really liked each other. But then, he suddenly got all cold and has stopped talking to me, and walks away whenever I come by. I still like him, but I don't know why he's doing this. I didn't say anything that would hurt him, and I've been completely honest w/ him. Why is he doing this? Does he hate me?
If he is not able to tell you why he is the way he is move on and forget about him.
How serious was the relationship? Were you 'in love' or 'I like you a lot (or enough to go out on dates)'?
Could he have met someone who he thinks he has fallen in love with? Is he the type who would be able to tell you if he did?
You may never get a reason for his change of 'heart'. Accepting and moving on may be all that you can do.
I doubt he hates you, and after seeing each other for a year, you would or anyone for that matter, be correct in thinking you're owed an explanation or to be told that the other no longer wants to be in a relationship.
Was there an argument between you and this boy before he started ignoring you.
I think its bad manners on his part to just drop you for no apparent reason, and I can understand that you would like to be told where you stand or even why he has taken to ignoring you, however sadly for you some people are like this and that's no consolation to you I know but all you can do is try to get him out of your system.
Next time you see him don't even look his way, don't try to speak to him or ask him questions just totally blank him. Don't say hello nothing, just act as if he isn't there, this won't get you the closure you desire, but it'll give him a taste of his own medicine.
Just consider this you're a better person than he is and what he has done is heartless and cruel, you cannot change it but you can ensure it doesn't happen with another boy in the future Im sorry you're going through this without any apparent reason. You will get over him and his cruel treatment in time.
That's all I can say to you about this.
Hope this helps.
Unfortunately, we can't get along with everyone. He's the only one who knows the answer. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then take it as a hint that he wants to be left alone.
Sometimes things don't work out so I suggest you move on and let him sort out his own life.
His behavior suggests to me that he feels you wronged him. Perhaps someone told him you were unfaithful. Something like that.
But if he won't talk, I agree with everyone else that you need to move on. It's tough to be treated the way he's treating you and it's unfair of him not to give you some closure or a chance to explain yourself. But if he acts like this, he would not make a good long term partner anyway. Hope you feel better soon.
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It's tough finding out someone you love is not who you thought he was.
The hurt will go away and so will the tears. Time is what you need and I know that sounds cliché but it's true. I'm sorry you're hurting and you are in my prayers.
How old are you both? Whatever the reasons for his behavior, leave him alone.
What this boy is doing is also a form of control, he knows what he's doing he knows he's got you wondering what's wrong what you've done etc.
It's a nasty game he plays, do yourself a favour, don't indulge him in this, just ignore him and walk away, as hard as that may be its easier that sticking around allowing yourself to be hurt and under this guys spell or control either way it's the same.
You really need to try to move on, its over with him, and it could be the biggest favour he's ever done you, you deserve better than this.
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