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Ok here it goes I am 17 and I I've been thro so much in my life that I want to give up
Everything I have the best boyfriend I could ask for and the best friends ever.I just can't take my mom and dad's any more they are always bothering me and stuff and I'm tiered of it I use to cut myself and that made every thing better I ont do it anymore its been like 2 years and I want to do it again but I no there is better ways but I don't no what to do can some on talk to me.
Can you be more specific... about everything? Why can't you take your mom and dad. Why do you want to give up everything? We can only answer questions we understand.
Because I hate them they are always making funny of me and calling me names I hate them so much and I don't want to live any more I think it would be better for every one I'm not getting good grads in school I just stupid I'm so stupid
You need self confidence. Try working harder in school. And talk to your parents. Tell them you don't like it when they make fun of you. Also, the part about it being better if you weren't living anymore, I'm sure your boyfriend you want to stay alive. You matter to someone.
Sometimes it helps to talk to someone in a setting more enclosed and personal than online. Maybe talking to a counseler at school would be beneficial?
ashiiboo,
I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time at home. But if you could just hang on long enough to finish school and get a job then try and get out on your own. Maybe you have a friend you could share a room with. Or if things got too bad you could always leave and go and work in one of those holiday camps that provide accommodation. There are many options. Unfortunately, you might have to hold on for another year or so. Can you tough it out? Can you give your parents a wide berth - like keeping out of their way as much as possible? Take care of yourself and begin to make plans to get out on your own. Nothing lasts forever - not even the bad times. Hang in there and keep sharing with us. Okay?
PS. If you could talk to your parents, perhaps one at a time, and tell them how you feel. Sometimes it just takes for us to stand up to them for them to realise how much they are hurting us.
You should try and tell them how you hate how they treat u
I can tell you from experience that problems at home can make everything feel so bad. Your angry, confused, and emotional. These things that you are talking about I have thought myself when I was having problems when I was around 17. It was starting to get physically abusive. Afflicting pain on yourself is only going to make matters worse and the attention you draw on yourself is only going to be negative. It is up to you to start thinking differently, reacting differently and believe me that will start changing the atmosphere around you and how you look at life. I have been there and you know what. Looking back on all that I experienced. I am so thankful for those experiances because they made me the person I am today. So what you need to do is make decisions for yourself that is best for you. Whether it be temporarly staying at another relative. Moving out even it is at 17 might be one way to be able to learn and grow and actually get out of a negative environment. So yes, you might want it to end right now, but I am telling you your feelings will change, for the better. You will get past this period and you will be thankful later on in life because these experiances if you make the right decisions should prove you to be a well adjusted adult with lessons learned and moving forward to a new future. Marks and grades are not everything but the environment you living in would not help that. Maybe going to a new school, or being able to get out of the house would actually improve your feelings. Improve your marks. Always look to the future. When you think of the past think of it as really good building blocks to a well rounded individual which will be able to share your experiances with other people and help them get through these trying times which believe happens to a lot of people. Your not alone.
Joe
Oh, as far as getting your feelings out in the open or just getting them to listen to you. For me the best way was writing letters, still the same today. I am able to get my emotions, feelings thoughts down on paper, or now adays email.
Joe
Sorry Joe, had to spread the love some more...
Writing letters is my personal favorite too. Even if I don't send them I get my emotions out.
I have written them, and hid them, then weeks or months later re-read them and actually saw that I was the one being overly emotional.
Joe has some wonderful advice here. Please read his post, and try to get yourself some professional help.
ashiiboo,
Just for you. Take care of yourself and keep safe.
I Am Me
Please take me as I am,
Love me as I am,
Because I am only me,
I can't be anyone else.
I can't change the way I am,
I am me with all the pains and heartaches,
I am me with all the passions and sorrows,
I can't promise you to be different.
I can't promise you to change my ways,
But I can promise you to love you forever.
I can promise to be me always,
Very true and very real.
A heart full of love and passion.
Open your eyes to see that it is me,
I can't be anyone else.
I am just me from top to bottom,
With all the good and the bad.
I am only me and not just anyone,
So look at me now.
Love me as I am and hold me as I am,
Because I am only me!
Hi I would just like to tell you is,cutting yourself does not make your prolblems go aways all it does is hut u.And that good you have found the right boyfriend.Quote:
Originally Posted by ashiiboo
Take care and reply please I need someone to talk 2.thankyou
Ashiiboo,
J_9 has a good idea... getting your feelings out is important... keep a diary if ness. To keep feelings bundled up is not healthy. I used to carve myself up to... the pain would take my mind off my problems, but, it is not an answer. All you have in the end are ugly scares.
As far as your parents... take them aside one on one and let them know how much it bothers you when they pick on you... I am sure you are not stupid... you are smart enough to use a computer are'nt you? You probably know more about computers than I do... so please don't think your dumb.
I stayed back a year in first grade how do you fail first grade I'm trans female to male and have attempted suicide tell your parents that there screwing up and to get off your nerves if they have that much problems they'll realize to stop giving you problems
Hey. I agree with the stick-it-out-until-you-can-get-out philosophy. Just don't try to commit suicide. If you feel like you have to, disract yourself until that moment passes. I have friends who tried to kill themselves, and they have said that they are so happy that they didn't. If you ever need to talk to someone in a "setting" that is more personal than an open message board, a friend of mine is really good. Like, scary good, and she's not like a therapist (my- way- is- the- only- way). If you want her email its [email protected].Quote:
Originally Posted by ashiiboo
Stick it out!
Yeah I know what you're going through. A way to keep your mind off cutting is too find something you're really into and just like research it and just kind of like obsess over it. That's what I do. The thing I obsess over is music. But most of all My Chemical Romance (alternative rock band). So just try it... it works for me
PS- the best of luck to you <3
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Id love to help you. I'm the same age as you and I really need someone to speak to as well.
Kiran
You cannot give up. 17 is so close to grown. Consider joining the military or talking to a high school counselor about options for you when you finish school. If you feel very hurt and like there is no one to turn to, try to find counseling or a social service organization in your area. You have access to the internet. Find the United Way in your area, they should be able to refer you to an organization that will be able to help you. You can make it. One day soon, you will be out on your own and tings will be better.
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