My boy friend is generally verry loveing and pays a lot of attention to me but when he get paid he seems somewhat distant. Like text messaging and tilting the phone so I can't see what's going on, or talking on the phone in another room. I know he's not cheating he is never away long enough to do anything but something is not right. Can someone please give me some advise.

As you've stated you know he is not cheating then you can assume its for other reasons he does these things, and to put it mildly why do you want to know his every move or the contents of his every text, that's somewhat nosey.

Its also an invasion of his privacy, you say yourself he's not cheating so let him have his privacy, we don't own our partners, and as individuals we are all entitled to privacy.

You cannot expect to know the ins and outs of his every move, that will have him feeling stifled and could lead to other problems.

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Originally Posted by positiveparent

As youve stated you know he is not cheating then you can assume its for other reasons he does these things, and to put it mildly why do you want to know his every move or the contents of his every text, thats somewhat nosey.

Its also an invasion of his privacy, you say yourself hes not cheating so let him have his prvacy, we dont own our partners, and as individuals we are all entitled to privacy.

You cannot expect to know the ins and outs of his every move, that will have him feeling stifled and could lead to other problems.

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Sorry I should have said this, its not that I want to know everything or even that I care what he's texting but why should he be tilting his phone to make sure that I can't see it and go out of the room for only some phone calls

I would say he does this because its something he considers private or that he feels you do not have to be privvy to, as stated in pre post by myself, he is entitled to privacy just as you are.

If this is your only issue in this relationship I suggest you ignore it, and let it go, why rock the boat if the waters are otherwise calm, you'll only end up feeling hurt and it could lead to a bigger or more serious problem between you both.

Why risk that, when there no real reason to.

He is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Maybe something you would not approve of, or with someone you may not approve of. Just ask him.

Or maybe something you will regret finding out about.

Let it go..