I lost my virginity in March so I'm still new to sex. I've read and heard that it was harder for women to climax and all that. I've never climaxed when I'm with my boyfriend and what's worse is that I don't really feel pleasure when he's inside me. I've had orgasms from clitoral stimulation before but why can't I get a vaginal orgasm?

Hello C:

You poor women. You have to LEARN how to reach orgasm during sex, and us guys don't. It ain't fair, I tell you... But it IS the way it is.

But, there's hope. With practice, and a good partner, you'll learn how to get off during sex. You may even experience a vaginal orgasm, but not all women do. Remember, practice makes perfect.

excon

Many women NEVER have a vaginal orgasm. You either get them, or you don't--and no one seems to know why. There just have not been a lot of studies into women's sexuality, unfortunately.

Try stimulating your clitoris during sex--or getting your boyfriend to do so. That should help with at least enjoying intercourse.

How old are you?

She's 19--I found it in one of her other posts.

Ok Thanks Synnen.

Best Regards,
John

I know many people claim there are 2 types of female orgasm, however I don't think there are, an orgasm is an orgasm, maybe they're slightly different when induced through intercourse or self pleasuring, but they're still orgasms.

Maybe you're thinking of female ejaculation, and that does happen, I know Ive experienced it often, however that to me still isn't a different type of orgasm, its totally different to an orgasm or rather it accompanies an orgasm I should say.

However there is another type of orgasm but its totally and utterly different completely unlike any other known I would think, and that's the Tantric full body orgasm. Phewwwww now they're good.

If you had an orgasm through clitoral stimulation then you've had an orgasm, just one with out penis penetration, I assume its been without penetration.

Having an orgasm through intercourse can take time to achieve unless you are in a certain position, have you tried getting on top it is usually easier to achieve that way. Or doggie fashion this way he can stimulate you by hand to orgasm. Whilst being inside you.

Hope this helps even if only slightly.

Experiment with positions and you'll find it happens.

Just remembered something that really does help, get your b/f to invest in a cock ring, one with spikes ( they're rubber) on, ohlalal. You'll fly..

They hit the right spot every time...

Positions, lube and toys. It gets better. Your first few times are nerve racking. You will relax and start finding out what works for you.

I feel you; the only thing I was feeling the first few times was a bit of pain when entering and then nothing. The key is to tell him you're not feeling anything! It's quite normal not to be stimulated by some positions. For example, I feel nothing when he's on top and my legs are by his sides. If I put my legs around his legs, WOW. (you need to be flexible though). Or if he's sitting by the bed and I'm on top of him with my legs around him.

In general, be honest. And experiment with him! You'll figure out together what works for you.