I decided to join this site just to see what input I can get on this very unusual issue of mine. I have been chronically single my entire life, lots of one night stands or sex buddies. Well all that has changed over the past couple years. I guess you can say I have matured some. Well at any rate I have been with my current boyfriend now for just over two months now. He moved in with me only a couple weeks or so after we got together to get a new start in a new town. We met online and hit it off really quickly. We talked a lot on there and on the phone and the connection transferred over to face to face quite well. Things are progressing quite well and we both have a deep sense of love for each other. Ok... ready for my problem?
The first time he came to visit me we had sex twice the first day he was here. It was intense and quite enjoyable for both of us. As our relationship got more and more developed he told me that he wasn't a very sexual person. That he just doesn't have sex very often at all. I didn't think much of it, just because most guys want it all the time, so I assumed he meant he was more like a twice a week guy. I couldn't be more wrong. We are about at the rate of once a month. He has told me that he would much rather masturbate than have sex, just because he knows what he likes and it's a lot "easier" than having sex. I do not masturbate. I never really have gotten into it and don't really get anything out of it. For me it's the real thing or nothing at all.
He has told me that he has been with quite a few sexual partners, let's just say it made me less embarrassed over my two digit number that still begins with a 1. He told me he has cheated in the past and hurt a lot of good people. My question is basically can you burn yourself out on sex? Or is it possible that his guilt of hurting the women of his past has somewhat jaded the idea of sex?
I personally am quite a hands on person. I love to touch and be touched but it's as though I am to scared to try to instigate anything. I have never been a dominate person and have never really had to be. Can someone please help me with asking him about this or possibly pin pointing where this "problem" is coming from?

Women slow down. Some men slow down with age. Is he old? Does he work or is he gay did he move in with you to get a free ride. He said he did a lot of sex with women, you don’t know if that’s true. If you guys are young then it probably won’t get better. If he won’t have sex with you, are you going to cheat? Put him out. Get to know a guy longer than weeks before moving him in.

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Originally Posted by troublemakerman

Women slow down. Some men slow down with age. Is he old? Does he work or is he gay did he move in with you to get a free ride. He said he did a lot of sex with women, you don’t know if that’s true. If you guys are young then it probably won’t get better. If he won’t have sex with you, are you going to cheat? Put him out. Get to know a guy longer than weeks before moving him in.

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He is the same age as me, 27. He told me of some experimenting he did with guys when he was a young teen, boyscouts that type of thing but nothing since. He has actually told me about a lot of his past relationships. The most recent one he was with her for over five years on and off.
He isn't really getting a free ride because he pays his share of the bills and works.
To answer the cheating part, no. I am very faithful to whomever I am with. I would break up with someone if I felt the need to cheat.
I know we moved really fast but things seemed to click so well.
I want to talk to him about all this but I guess it's my lack of experience when it comes to being in a serious relationship to really know how to go about talking to someone about sexual stuff. I get really blushy and embarrassed when I try.

Well all sorts of issue, and moving someone in after a few weeks and then wondering about sex habits latter ? Does not sound like you changed your ways a lot.

He is selfish, and has most likely got adicted to masturbation

So either be happy with it ( don't expect it to get better) or move on before you waste a lot more time