I'm 20 and married with one son. Love my life. But I'm having some trouble in the bed room I can to have an Orgasm. We have tried ecerything we know to try. We have tried it in the bath tub the shower him trying to get me there me trying toys bringin other people everything and. I just cant. I all most get there my body gets really tight and goes crazy but then goes to nothing. Its like my body tightin and nothing matters then nothing. I don't kow what to do. I've started to think there is something wrong with me and don't really ever want sex now because it semes to be point less it I can't have an Orgasm.

What do you think happens when a woman has an orgasm? Rather, what are you expecting is going to happen when you have one? (I'm wondering if you are having them and not realizing it.)

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Originally Posted by the OP

i all most get there my body gets really tight and goes crazy but then goes to nothing

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That may be "your orgasm". I've seen a number of kinds. The orgasm is in the mind. Don't try to achieve it. Relax.

Women generally can more easily orgasm from oral sex. Some women can be trained to orgasm "on command". In one particular session I had a girl orgasm every time I said " for me". She did it about 10x in a row. Quite freaky. Her orgasm could be seen. Generally this isn't the case.

Your partner may have no idea what he's doing. Your going to have to help.

I also had a woman orgasm by licking her toe.

Clarify please...

Can you get yourself to orgasm with self stim? Is the problem you have Never had an orgasm or that you struggle with your lover?

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Originally Posted by JaXons_momma

I'm 20 and married with one son. love my life. but im having some trouble in the bed room i can to have an Orgasim. we have tryed ecerything we know to try. we have tryed it in the bath tub the shower him tryin to get me there me tryin toys bringin other people everything and. i just cant. i all most get there my body gets really tight and goes crazy but then goes to nothing. its like my body tightin and nothing matters then nothing. i dont kow what to do. i've started to think there is something wrong with me and dont really ever want sex now because it semes to be point less it i can't have an Orgasim.

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I am with Wondergirl on this one. I think you don't know what an orgasm is and I am very concerned that you endangering your health.

All of these things you have listed in your attempt to achieve an orgasm are they your ideas or your husband's ideas? How do you know you haven't had an orgasm? What do you think and orgasm is? If your concept has anything to do with porn stars, then you need a reality check.

How old is your husband? How sexually active was he before you got together?

Yes, learn to enjoy your own body
And then you tell husband how you want it, not how he wants to do it to you

Just to add that different women experience orgasms in different ways. It doesn't mean that you have to scream uncontrolably and act in a certain way. You may very well have a very strong orgasm and not have that.

Also, why wouldn't you want to have sex because of not having an orgasm? People don't have sex just to orgasm, at least not for me. Yes, it's amazing when it happens and it would be nice if it would happen every time, but you can't start having sex with the ultimate goal of achieving that. It will stress you out too much. The more you think about it, the harder it will be.