I have been dating this guy, we'll call him Jay, for a year. I love him without a doubt. BUT, I miss my ex boyfriend, Ryan. He's a musician, and there was just something completely wonderful and special about him and our relationship that we shared, which I never got over. Now I'm with Jay, and he knows about my previous relationship with Ryan. And the thing is even though I can't stop wondering (what if I had stayed with Ryan, what if I miss out on a chance to be with Ryan again, blah blah blah) I know good and well that Jay is the better man. Ryan spiralled into drugs and depression when we broke up, although its under control now. But Jay is smart, histerical, sexy, and UNDERSTANDING. I love him. So why can't I get over this other man! Maybe it's that mystery of Ryan that drew me in so close. We were deep. Please anyone, guys or girls, give me some info if you've been through the same dilemma, because I don't want to do anything rash and screw my relationship up with Jay. And Ryan is in town right now so I cannot get him off my mind! Help!

Which is more important? You need to make a decision that works for you because you are the only one who knows what they want. You do know what you want don't you? If not, like you say don't do anything rash.