Originally Posted by
Mary Wheaton
I was going to say to whoever wrote the original question - If you have to ask, you shouldn't be considering anal sex. But if it's the first time, then I'll give my own experience if it helps.
I used to enjoy anal sex because the man I was with knew what he was doing and knew to take things very slowly. I will say that it makes sense for the woman to empty her bowels (or give herself an enema) earlier in the day. For hygiene purposes you don't want the penis to come into contact with feces. Keep both male and female parts clean(before and afterwards), definitely use lubrication, go v-e-r-y slowly, and once the penis is inside, you should enjoy it. Of course the female will "feel" it. Why else would you do it? If she experiences any pain (sometimes it can happen), you just don't do it that time. You can always try again some other day. At times anal sex can be terrific.
I will say that I enjoyed it occasionally when I was younger. I am much older now, remarried, and the whole anal thing grosses my husband out. It is fine with me.
It might also be beneficial to perhaps watch a video, but keep in mind that the actors doing porn are already "broken in" shall we say.
58 and done with it.