I have been chatting with a guy I would say about almost 2 months online.
He has not shown a picture of himself yet which I don't know what to make of it.. Anyway we have had some really nice conversations online.. He told me
He enjoys chatting with me and I told him the same.. He said he will send
A picture soon.. I could tell he feels strange sending a picture.. My question
Is what should I make of all of this.. And also when should I try to meet him
How long should you chat with someone online before meeting...

He is really 12 ? Or he says he 25 and he is really 55.
He is 400 lbs

He does not own a digital camera and has no way to get a online photo ( that does happen)

He is married and does not want his photo out

I think you need a lot more than what you have now. And there are to many ways to send a picture now a days. For sure if he is not that forthcoming, don't you be so, enjoy being chat buddies until you have a lot more solid information.

Just for your own PROTECTION, just in case.

It's a tricky process and 2 months can be considered a "long time" depending on how often/how long you talk... Honesty is the key and my opinion is, if you talked about sending pictures and if he didn't send one naturally (pretty much everyone has at least one digital picture!) is that he is scared of your reaction and if he has feelings for you, he may be trying to take you -emotionally- to the point where his appearance/situation won't really matter.

You will find out why. Try not to get too involved until then. My advice would be asking him honestly what he's scared of (you're just chatting after all) depending on your intimacy level.

You shouldn't even be chatting to a guy you don't know. How old are you? I hope you're smart enough to know there are predators who go on these chat lines.

Stick to someone you know if you're old enough.

I would suggest going on webcam with him. Even if he sends you a photo how do you know it's even him?? Now a days with photoshop and everything, you never really know. If he cares enough about getting to know you more he will do it.

I agree with the others just stay friendly with him till you see his photo. Then when you see his photo suggest webcam. I wouldn't meet up with anyone who I hadn't seen on webcam

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Originally Posted by aimee_tt

I agree with the others just stay friendly with him till you see his photo. Then when you see his photo suggest webcam. I wouldnt meet up with anyone who i hadnt seen on webcam

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I agree!

He could be being hesitant about showing you his photo because he lacks confidence.

This is quite a common thing.

As for meeting up with him 2 months is far too soon, take it slowly maybe after about a year would be time to think of meeting him, if you're that unsure of his being genuine you can always do a background check.

Remember: chatting online is not dating, don't confuse the two.

I have spoke to someone for some time now.. It has been online.. I have not heard from him in 2 weeks.. Do you think I should email and ask what's up or see if he contacts me.. Thanks..

I am guessing a casual email is not harmful
I don't see why not

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Originally Posted by mar222

I have spoke to someone for some time now..It has been online..I have not heard from him in 2 weeks.. Do you think i should email and ask whats up or see if he contacts me..Thanks..

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Sure why not, but uhh go outside more often eh, real people reply in 2 seconds or less ;)

Maybe he's been arrested. Maybe he's a perv. How old are you anyway?

Drop him off casual email, and if he won't respond, just forget about him.

It wont hurt to email this person, if you dont get a reply then I would just move on and forget about him. Thats about all you can do...

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Originally Posted by Shadowburn

Drop him off casual email, and if he won't respond, just forget about him.

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Have to spread some rep Shadowburn, but sounds like a good plan to me.

Online romances rarely work and how do you know this guy isn't married or a pervert? He hasn't emailed so leave it alone. My opinion only.