We've been going out for nearly 8 months. We used to really close and talk loads and be together all the time. Recently he hasn't been wanting to spend as much time with me and doesn't try to cheer me up if I'm upset and we just argue lots. He said it was just because of his exams and hell want to spend loads of time with me when they're finished. They've now finished, and he seems to be getting more distant. He's started spending loads of time with his girl mate, more than he used to do. He's spent loads of days wit wth her. I asked if he would ever go out with her, and he gave the same answer he gave to his ex girlfriend about me. Because he didn't want to say no because he liked me so said I don't think so which exactly what he said about her. He doesn't seem as close anymore either he doesn't hug me or kiss me as much as he used to. Am I just being paranoid or is he going off me? If he's going off me how do I handle it?

Well it sorry to say but it does kind of seem that way, if he does don't let him see you upset for know if you don't want to leave him first start making plans for urslef to take up your time spend time with friends and family this way it won't be as bad when he does (if that's what's going to happen) you'll already have a life without him. And who knows if you start doing this you might make him realize that you can make it without him an he might start wanting to spend more time with u. hope this helps

Well I would say the same thing , maybe you should start making plans with your friends. They might feel left out or something since you were always with your boyfriend. Do as he is doing to you. Show him how it feels, maybe even hang out with another guy friend. Show him that your life is not alll about him or doesn't revolve around him or his time. Don't always have the time for him. This willl show him how you feel and how he is tree=ating you. Good luck girl (:

Sounds like the honeymoon is over and the work has just started. Why are you arguing all the time?

Thankyouu ill try that :) and I don't know we just argue about stupid stuff like he always says one thing and does the other and doesn't keep his promises and he doesn't show much respect to my Dad, he's like a family friend and my Dads someone you can mess around with but he like hits him and speaks horribly to him- even if it is messing about I still think its quite horrible. And sometimes he's more of a childminder than a boyfriend, do this, do that, don't do this, don't do that! And he can mess around with me and tease me and stuff but as soon as I do the same back he makes me feel bad about it :/
Thank you for all your answers :)

You don't need him in your life.

Yeahhh... I wish it was as easy as that though, its so much easier said than done. I really love him but I know in my heart that he's no good for me really I wish I could just say to him yeah I don't want to go out with you but it would break my heart
Hmmm :/

I doubt it gets worse than what it is now with the confusion you are having, and you sound broken hearted already.

Yeah I am... I think I'm going to give it one more chance and see if things get better and then that's it.:) thanks for the help :)

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Yeah i am... i think im gonna give it one more chance and see if things get better and then thats it.:) thanks for the help :)

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One more chance is not going to make this better. I'm sorry but I see no hope for this relationship.