Hi I am really missing my ex he worked away and I just wanted to be with him,
I got drunk one night while he was at mine with his son and went off on one, before he went he told me he loved me but when he went back to his job he wouldn't talk I kept ringing him leaving voice messages all he ddid would text he is moving too scotland now with his work he still pays for my car and phone and gives me money every week I know he has moved on but I can not I fell so ill I can not eat or sleep have been to docs and am on antidepressants can not get him off my mind !help please feel so guilty as I went on and on about being with me and staying with me he did try is all my fault

Did something happen other than you getting drunk?

He said in txt most probably am so so down

This doesn't answer my question, In order to help you we have to know why he left. If he left because you were drunk then.. he must not want you to drink. Have you had problems with drinking in the past?

No I just said horrible things which I never meant about him and his son the next day I apologised was so worried about loseing them now I have before he left he told me he loved me
Then when he text said ut probabley was my fault


Yes but he always bought me drink and I told him I had a problem with it but he always bought me drink! Was me going on about his job and staying with me and probably saying bad things about the both of them he drank bitter when he saw me over 12 can a night

If I was with someone and they got drunk and went off on one with my child there,I would run for the hills.

I'm guessing that's why its over.

First thing to do is stop texting him,stop all contact,start NO CONTACT.

Get busy with your work,school,gym,house,what ever it is you do in the day.

Talk to your friends,you need emotional support,and as you heal,consider your part in the break up and your actions.

If drinking is a problem for you,or if its away of coping,look into help in your area,or talk to your doctor.

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Originally Posted by holmsey

no i just said horrible things which i never ment about him and his son the next day i apologised was so worried about loseing them now i have before he left he told me he loved me
then when he txt said ut probabley was my fault

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Does he have someone else now? You know drinking sometimes drinking brings out the worst in people. If you were verbally abusive to him and his child that is inexcusable behaviour. If he is in a new relationship then I think it's safe to assume he has moved on...

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Originally Posted by holmsey

yes but he always bought me drink and i told him i had a problem with it but he always bought me drink! was me going on about his job and staying with me and probably saying bad things about the both of them he drank bitter wen he saw me over 12 can a night

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He didn't make you drink it.

You choose to drink it,make a decision for your health and your well being to get the help you need.

Its not his fault you got drunk,that was all yours,own it,admit it, then do something about it.

OK thanks but his ex wife drinks and his son has seen worst than that I looked after him for 2 years so his dad could see him OK I made a mistake but he did not have to end it like that he could have given me a second chance


OK and he never don't you think this was cruel the way he left but still pays for my car my phone and gives me money every week

I think he is probably a good man who is helping you get on your feet until you can take care of yourself.

He doesn't really owe you that... I think drunken mental or verbal abuse when there is a child involved is totally unacceptable.

I also don't believe this is the first time , be honest, it has happened before. Get yourself together and
Get some counseling for the feelings you're having.

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Originally Posted by holmsey

ok thanks but his ex wife drinks and his son has seen worst than that i looked after him for 2 years so his dad could see him ok i made a mistake but he did not have to end it like that he could have given me a second chance

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And there's the crux of the matter,maybe he decided his son that seen enough.

Sometimes there are no second chances when a child is involved,but you have a chance now to turn your drinking around,get help,seek councilling,it's the way forward.

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Originally Posted by redhed35

and theres the cruz of the matter,maybe he decided his son that seen enough.

sometimes there are no second chances when a child is involved,but you have a chance now to turn your drinking around,get help,seek councilling,its the way forward.

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I'm glad the child is with his father. I'm sorry for your pain and I do think you need counseling. Do you have children of your own?

It does seem wrong on your part to have gotten drunk and abuse like that.That being said,if this is the first time its happenend,you should at least get a second chance.
On the other hand,if this has happened before,you got to get a grip on yourself and get busy with life.Get supporting yourself and don't accept any help from him,monetary or otherwise.I think he's more affected by the fact that his child was involved.
If you have problems with handling your drink,get help.Dont ignore it.
Above all,believe in yourself and don't lose heart.This too,shall pass.
Take care.

I think you should forget about him especially that he's moving to Scotland. You should stop accepting money from him like money for your car and phone. Learn how to stand up for yourself and you shouldn't let him ruin every single day of your life. Don't swallow your pride for someone that makes you cry. Remmeber there is always someone for everyone. You'll get over him. And seek help about your drinking problem. Its for your own good aznd someday for your kids. :)