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  • Jun 16, 2010, 01:21 AM
    smpick09
    My ex contacted me after 3 weeks NC, what does it mean?
    My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago, mainly because we both came home from college(we went to the same school) and he always lied and made up excuses for not hanging out with me and we were already home from school for a month. I always had to make the effort to talk to him first and I found out through Facebook he was hanging out with other girls and it seemed like it was abit more then just friends. I broke up with him and he just told me good he didn't want to be tied down anymore and he deleted me off fb. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks.

    He sent me a Facebook message 3 days ago but I haven't replied it says:
    " i still feel bad i hope u can forgive me someday 'n' not hate me i'm not even asking to be friends but i just hope ya don't look back 'n' hate me u were nothing but good to me 'n' i shoulda treated ya right i just don't want u hating me forever : / well maybe i'll hear back from ya if not no worries."

    What does this mean?
  • Jun 16, 2010, 01:27 AM
    positiveparent

    Maybe it means what it says that he doesn't want you to hate him.

    So I would suggest you get on with your life, and let him go and go and enjoy yourself.

    You'll find another b/f in time there's no rush.

    How long had you been seeing him.
  • Jun 16, 2010, 05:00 AM
    mawtom

    Ignore him. Delete him from YOUR f/b and your life. He is probably damaged goods by now anyway. Why bother.
  • Jun 16, 2010, 05:50 AM
    talaniman

    He is trying to relieve his own guilt, for being a jerk, and it means nothing to you. Absolutely NOTHING!!
  • Jun 16, 2010, 07:07 AM
    Devorameira

    As Tal said, he's feeling guilty and just wanted to ease his conscience. He's not wanting to get back with you at all.

    You'd be wise to ignore his message. Doing otherwise would only put a little false hope in your heart which would only end in heartbreak.
  • Jun 16, 2010, 11:42 AM
    I wish

    A better question would be, does it matter what it means?

    If you still have feelings for him, then you're opening a can of worms. Does that mean that you want to get back together?

    If you've decided that you want to move on with your life, then who cares what he means by the message.
  • Jun 16, 2010, 11:51 AM
    ZoeMarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mawtom View Post
    Ignore him. Delete him from YOUR f/b and your life.

    And after you delete him, block him too.
  • Jun 16, 2010, 09:55 PM
    tiffrocks2010
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    Maybe it means what it says that he doesnt want you to hate him.

    So I would suggest you get on with your life, and let him go and go and enjoy yourself.

    Youll find another b/f in time theres no rush.

    How long had you been seeing him.

    Yeah your totally right!
  • Jun 28, 2010, 11:47 PM
    smpick09
    Does my ex want me back still?
    My ex and I dated 3 years in high school, but we broke up senior year but still were friends with benefits. When I got to college I met a boy and long story short started dating him and my ex found out and became heart broken. I broke up with my recent boyfriend because I found out he was playing me. On spring break I went to my ex's house he asked me back out and told me he was still in love with me. I rejected him because I still had just gotten out of a relationship a week before.

    My ex ignored me after he asked me out because it hurt him even more. Two months ago after not talking to him I really started to realize how much I missed him.We began talking again everyday. He lives at his college in the summer for work, and I went up there 2 weeks ago to visit him for a weekend. I confessed my feelings and told him I wanted to be with him. He told me it was way to soon to even think about getting back together because of what happened.

    Ever since I went up to visit him I've only heard from him twice and every time we talk on the phone he just sounds like he wants to be friends because when I say I miss you he ignores it. He told me he was coming back to town this weekend but he probably won't see me because he will be to busy.

    I keep wondering did he lose interest in me or is he acting like this on purpose because of what I did to him? Not sure if I should wait around, ask him out or what?
    Advice please and thank you.
  • Jun 29, 2010, 12:12 AM
    S SID

    You need to move on, he obviously has, he probably doesn't want to be rejected for a third time so no point pursueing him, just try to be friendly to him but you need to really consider moving on.
  • Jun 29, 2010, 08:41 AM
    talaniman

    As said in your other post move on. Who in there right mind wants to be reject 3 times?

    Why did you even approach him after dumping the other guy. That was sort of selfish on your part.

    After merging your threads they tell two different stories as he was seeing others, but so were you, during a break.

    Move on because you can't keep the story straight

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