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I am 15, and I have a mother that's 15 yrs older than me and no father. I started going out with this guy that's 2 yrs older than me and since we started dating she has been so mean to me and I ran up my cell phone bill because I am verizon and all my friends are not and I like text massaging and I manage to have a 700 dollar bill in 2 months and my mother doesn't care for me always yelling at me making me do things I or even tell me I can't see my boyfriend and its making me mad and I don't know how to handle it please help me

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Originally Posted by lifesucks227

i am 15, and i have a mother thats 15 yrs older than me and no father. i started going out with this guy thats 2 yrs older than me and since we started dating she has been so mean to me and i ran up my cell phone bill b/c i am verizon and all my friends are not and i like text massaging and i manage to have a 700 dollar bill in 2 months and my mother doesn't care for me always yelling at me making me do things i or even tell me i can't see my boyfriend and its making me mad and i don't know how to handle it please help me

I can understand that you like texting your friends but please think of your mother that has to pick up the bill. Work out a budget that you are allowed to spend on texting with your mother and stick to it. In respect of your boyfriend has your mother anything to be fearful of about him? We only have one set of parent/s so please work on your relationship with your mother. Mother lighten up if you truly do not have any fears about your child's safety. Show your mum my reply and I hope you both work out the problems.

It sounds to me she wants you to have a better life than she did. She does not want to see you with a child and loose the wonderful years as a teenager to be a mother. I understand that very well. I am also sure it is hard for her to pay the bills food rent electric insurance taxes clothes soap drinks gas medicines etc. When you say you mother is yelling at you then I see it that she cares a lot about you and trying to get through to you how hard life is and does not want you to be suffering and get a good education so you have a great job. Maybe you should try to sit down with her when she pays the bills and see just how much money she has coming in and just how much money she has to pay out just so you have a place to live and stay warm and dry. Maybe you should try to sit and talk to your mom about what her dreams were for life and how they changed when she found out she was going to have you. I am sure her dreams were crushed and she had a rude awaking to life but then I am also sure you would never trade you for those dreams. If she did not care about you then she would never get upset with you and let you do as you please and suffer for all your mistakes. You are and have been your mothers life and if anything happened to you she would never forgive herself so she becomes very protective. Your solution is to be involved with her problems and see and experience what she is going through to make a life for both of you. Doing the bills with her would give you a better understanding what she goes through very week. Make your mother a friend talk about dreams and problems. Just what do you expect to do in life and you should think about what you would like to do as a profession and how you will get the training needed.

First you need to separate things. You say your mom has been means to you, did this occur before or after you cost her $700 for text messaging?

Frankly, I think you are a typical teenager who doesn't understand that your parent feels a responsibility for you and making sure you don't make the mistakes she did. Maybe she is not handling it as well as she should, but I think you need to listem more and show more responsibility. If you do, she may start lightening up.

Your mom is scared that her baby, will grow up to be a useless, irresponsible, adult who causes problems, and doesn't care about anyone, but herself. You need to show her how wrong she is, by being responsible, helping out around the house, and showing how much you appreciate the hard work she does for you. That should put a smile on her face and get her to relax, and trust you.

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Originally Posted by lifesucks227

i am 15, and i have a mother thats 15 yrs older than me and no father. i started going out with this guy thats 2 yrs older than me and since we started dating she has been so mean to me and i ran up my cell phone bill b/c i am verizon and all my friends are not and i like text massaging and i manage to have a 700 dollar bill in 2 months and my mother doesn't care for me always yelling at me making me do things i or even tell me i can't see my boyfriend and its making me mad and i don't know how to handle it please help me

BE CAREFUL I first saw this thing when I was your age. I was than a boy of 15, and felt the natural feelings that one has towards pretty girls. I also had no father, indeed I have never known him and was bought up like you by my Mother. However as boys do, I fell madly in love with a beautiful girl and I noticed at the time my Mother HATED HER GUTS and for no apparent reason. My Mother though was doing pretty well at the time and was known to frequent parties on Saturday evenings, and was additionally having a relationship with a married man who had two children. With me though I was treated as if there was something wrong with me!
As you can imagine my relationship with this love did not last, but some years later I ended up in two incredibly destructive relationships, and had families with both.
As a result I would confer with my mother if my problems were a little too much to take on board. THIS WAS A FATAL MISTAKE, for she would ill advise me, than later she mentally choked my children by using lies, guilt, manipulation and any technique to draw them away. By this stage I had another partner and my children use to come to stay with us. The technique my Mother applied was to collude and conspire alongside with my ex partner, and together they applied this weapon not only to my children, but also towards my second partner. Evidently as you can imagine this relationship eventually broke down for good.
As a result my Mother got her hooks into both the children, convinced me and the little boy (at the time) that I was not his true Father, that his mother was a whore... But oddly enough she is his Grandmother. Hopefully you understand me? Again there was sometihng wrong with me
I myself am now a man of 45, and I am completely trapped here by this psychotic tyrant, she manged to ruin my work and relationships, and she walks around as if there is nothing wrong. If anything it would be a mistake for me to mention any of this to her, for everyone considers her the most wonderful of people, and they look down their nose at me... isn't she nice.. On a last note, if she ever considers there are women that are interested and sniffing around me, she literally launches into God knows what. I am still that young boy of 15 who use to have to hide telephone numbers so that his mother couldn't make any obscene calls to girls, or in my case women that he really likes... SO BE CAREFUL OF HER SHE IS CLEARLY DANGEROUS AND IT IS SOMETHING THAT WILL BE WITH YOU FOREVER... EVEN IF SHE APPEARS TO LIKE YOUR BOYFRIENDS DO NOT TRUST HER. Some will say try talking to her and try to understand her and alll that blah... BELIEVE you cannot reason with them even if they appear to be so.

Well I understand what you are going through I am 15 years older than my son sometimes we don't act like mother and son sometimes its like friends. But you have to understand that a 700.00 dollar bill is very high maybe you could ask her to get you a new phone service that allows you to have unlt. Text massaging .here where I live we have that it is really great for my son.and please understand that your mom is prolby trying to do her best all by her self and trust me that is very hard...