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  • Jun 13, 2010, 09:05 PM
    peanut3020
    My boyfriend never pays for my dinner and is cheap
    My boyfriend never pays for my meal. He always expects me to pay for myself. He has never given me flowers
  • Jun 14, 2010, 12:39 AM
    Clough
    Hi, peanut3020!

    How old are you and he, please?

    It would help to know about that in order for us to address your question the best.

    Thanks!
  • Jun 14, 2010, 01:33 AM
    Jeha

    Yes how old are you guys and does he have a job of some sort?
  • Jun 14, 2010, 08:25 AM
    peanut3020
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Clough View Post
    Hi, peanut3020!

    How old are you and he, please?

    It would help to know about that in order for us to address your question the best.

    Thanks!

    Hi and thank you. I 49 and my boyfriend is 55. We are both realtors and met at work. At first I was not ineterested in him but after doing many open houses together, the chemistry was undenialble. I got divorced 4 years ago so feeling like that again was so exciting.

    I have a college degree, own a home, and have other sources income in which to live. He does not have a college degree, no savings, no investments but does have a job as a real estate agent. In real estate its either feast or famine. My ex husband was an attorney, very successful. I am used to a certain standard of life. The fact that he is not making much money know is not his fault but he has never given me flowers, expects me to always pay for my dinner when we go out, and wants me to drive 50% of the time. I have a lot of friends and am close with my family... he does not.

    We are both chistians, like to work out, cook, but I just don't know how this relationship could work when he cannot bring into this relationship stability and security, which I am looking for. I do care about him very much and did I mention the physical attraction is a 10!

    Help!
  • Jun 14, 2010, 08:39 AM
    I wish
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peanut3020 View Post
    I just don't know how this relationship could work when he cannot bring into this relationship stability and security, which I am looking for.

    That basically sums it up. If you can't find stability and security with this person, then find someone else who can provide it for you.
  • Jun 14, 2010, 08:56 AM
    samjac

    Did you ever bring it up to him? Ask him maybe he is saving money for something special, maybe not. If you have doubts the best thing to do is talk. Communication is the key...

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