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  • Jun 10, 2010, 07:31 AM
    emmavictoria1991
    What should I do?
    I have been with my boyfriend now for nearly two years in August.
    A month into our relationship I wasn't sure if I liked him as much as I should, I ended up cheating on him with a guy I know (just a kiss) 2 months later I kissed another boy. I was drunk both times. I never told my boyfriend,and just left it. However now its been nearly two years since it happened and I have really fallen for my boyfriend, I love him more than anything, and I know I would never cheat on him again ever. They were just two stupid mistakes, and when I think about what I did I feel so guilty.
    Im not sure whether or not I should just forget it, because I know ill never do it again or tell him to stop myself feeling so guilty, but then I'm not sure I want to risk losing him over something which happened so long ago and something which was a stupid mistake!
  • Jun 10, 2010, 07:35 AM
    positiveparent

    Whilst I am all for honesty in any relationship I think if you tell your b/f about these 2 kisses, then you could end up causing problems where there aren't any, as long as that's all you've done is kiss 2 boys, then there's no need to tell your b/f.

    Try not to get drunk in future.
  • Jun 10, 2010, 07:50 AM
    I wish
    You have to decide.

    Would you rather live a life with this secret and guilt hanging over your shoulders.

    Or do you confess your mistake and risk hurting your boyfriend and even possibly losing him?

    There's no right or wrong answer. We can picture ourselves in your shoes, but we're not really in your shoes. You have to decide. Both decisions have consequences.

    A better question to ask yourself is: what kind of person do you want to be?
  • Jun 10, 2010, 08:04 AM
    kctiger

    This has nothing to do with alcohol. I'm sure you've gotten drunk since then and nothing has happened, and you say it will never happen again, so I assume the only thing that's changed is that you know you love him now.

    I would just hope that in the future, if you get into a fight or aren't happy with him, you don't resort to kissing another guy. This is about how you handle yourself. If I were you, I wouldn't tell him. It's your choice. You have a right to feel guilty, but you also have a right to know that we all make mistakes. Correcting them is what matters.
  • Jun 10, 2010, 11:00 AM
    talaniman

    Forgive yourself, and do better from here on out.
  • Jun 10, 2010, 02:26 PM
    ashleighcooper1

    If it was more than a kiss, then it would be a different story, and considering that it was only a few months into your relationship together, it might not be seen as much of a big deal.

    This decision is up to you. I'm sure you've been together long enough now for him to understand how meaningless those two kisses were? Therefore you could tell him, and move on.

    But if you feel as though he will take offense at what you've done, then don't hurt him. Two kisses surely meant nothing? So surely it'd be easy to forget that they ever happened, and just continue living a great life with your boyfriend.

    Don't jeopardise anything if you think it will ruin your relationship together. 2 years is not worth losing over two stupid kisses.

    Hope you make the right decision, and everything runs smoothly. Take care :)

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