I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year and six months now. We have done oral, and had sex. I really enjoy oral, and love all of that. My girlfriend said before that she liked preforming oral, that she didn't know why but she just did. Now she tells me that she doesn't like it anymore, and again she says that she just doesn't there's no reason. I like to mix things up and keep her guessing sexually, but she doesn't like doing oral any more, of course she loves it when I preform it though. Is there anything that I can do to make her like doing it again? She is also never really horny. I am away at college and get horny numerous times, but she never does. She does not get sexually frustrated at all. Even when I am home with her it takes a lot to get her to be horny. When she does get horny she lets me know and definitely wants it, but she doesn't really get horny that often. I've tried everything. I want to please her, and I want her to want to please me, not just because she knows that I like it. Does anyone have any advice on any of this? Please help!!

Please help me... I don't care what the answer is, or even if it's just a part of one of the questions... I need help!!

First off, are you treating her like she is special and that you truly desire her and not just sex? I know when my boyfriend does something that makes me feel special and like I am the only girl in the whole world, nothing turns me on more. And have you sat and talked to her that you really do enjoy oral. Maybe she feels like she isn't doing it right. Talk about it during a comfortable time, not so much at an intimate time. Don't make her feel bad, but let her know that its what you want.

Sometimes putting a woman in the mood does not have to be a sexual experience. Sometimes it can be an action or a word that can be used. I remember one time my husband surprised me with a candle lit dinner when I got home from work. He had music playing softly, a wonderful meal, wine, and fondue for dessert. After feeding each other chocolate covered strawberries, I was more turned on then ever. Sex that night was amazing.

She is special to me and I let her know it... I massage her, write her little letters, send her flowers, and sometimes just enjoy talking into the early hours of the morning just holding her looking up into the stars. She said before that she likes to, and that now she just doesn't and she doesn't know why. She know's how much I like it, but I tell her not to feel bad, and that I don't want her to do anything that she doesn't want to do. I just want her to want to do it.

My husband always lets me know how much he loves me... but sometimes surprises are nice too. Try to do something out of the ordinary... then use that opportunity to talk. Find out what she is thinking. Tell her that you support her no matter what. Don't pressure her... but listen

I don't want to pressure her at all... I just want her to want it and I don't know if there's anything that I can do to make her want to do specifically that. The sex is great, and I surprise her with little romantic things from time to time, and I'm perfectly fine if she doesn't do oral at all, I wouldn't bother her about it at all, but she used to like to do it, and I want to know if there's anything that I can to to make her want to do it on her own

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Originally Posted by cman

I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year and six months now. We have done oral, and had sex. I really enjoy oral, and love all of that. My gf said before that she liked preforming oral, that she didn't know why but she just did. Now she tells me that she doesn't like it anymore, and again she says that she just doesn't there's no reason. I like to mix things up and keep her guessing sexually, but she doesn't like doing oral any more, of course she loves it when i preform it though. Is there anything that I can do to make her like doing it again? She is also never really horny. I am away at college and get horny numerous times, but she never does. She does not get sexually frustrated at all. Even when I am home with her it takes a lot to get her to be horny. When she does get horny she lets me know and definitely wants it, but she doesn't really get horny that often. I've tried everything. I want to please her, and i want her to want to please me, not just because she knows that I like it. Does anyone have any advice on any of this? Please help!!!!

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Cody get her a vibrater not a huge one just a small one to put on top once she has an orgasm with one of those she will be ready every time.

She thinks that it's fine for guys to masturbate, but not for girls, I told her that iswas perfectly natural and she said "ewwe grosse no it's not. I don't understand it. We actually talked about this today because she actually got horney for once after not seeing me for several weeks. I appreciate all of the advice, and if you can keep it coming that'd be great. Thanks again.

It isn't masturnbating when the two of you are working together. If you show her the way she might come around.

Get over her!

I think she might find it odd, but it's worth a shot... thanks :)

Seems to me like you are pushing aside all of the thoughtful advice about how to treat her and still insisting on finding out how to get her to perform oral on you again. You are being selfish.

You say, "Is there anything that I can do to make her like doing it again?"
Key words here "...make her like doing it..." BIG CLUE THERE

Perhaps you are too insistent and that is pushing her away. If you think back to the last time she performed oral you may remember something that happened to put her off the act. Please evaluate yourself as much as you are evaluating her.

Sounds as if she is growing and changing and either you accept her and her ways or look else where for a g/f. You can't make people do as you want and its selfish to think so. She has every right to be comfortable with herself and you have no right to hold it against her. People grow and change and that's the bottom line.