My boyfriend of 6 months kept a secret from me about something he did with another girl 3 months ago. He is just now telling me and it hurts me so much. What do I do, forgive or move on?

It may have been 3 months ago for him,but for you it might as well have just happened.

Can I ask how old you both are?

I'm 16 and he just made 15 in April

I suppose it depends what he did. Also why he did it.

If he kissed another girl then he can be forgiven BUT HE HAS TO EARN IT!

If he has slept with another girl... id say he isn't worth it. If he can't keep it in his pants after JUST 3 months with you then he doesn't respect you at all. If you had been together 10 years and he went wondering but realised it was a mistake then you could consider forgiving him... but 3 months...

He didn't kiss another girl that situation already happened but
He like rubbed her down there you know && he dry humped her and
Kissed her on her leg by her uhm
Private you know.. && we were talking about what would break us up then he asked what if it was something in the past. So right then && there I knew he was hiding something. Now I don't trust him nor believe anything he says because its lke he is keeping secrets frm me && I gve him my all lke when I did do something I never kept it frm him I tld him that night; thts what kills me I was in it alone. Now he is always txtin me long text messages saying how he loves me && he is sorry && I'm lke yeah kind of late for that you know..

So your saying he previously kissed another girl and now he basically had foreplay with another girl...

I would say dump him.

My boyfriend had another girl kiss him on the lips. It was an accident (kiss goodbye on the cheek gone wrong) but he came running over to me to tell me straight away what happened and looked like he was going to cry.

Your boyfriend kept it for 3 months! How little respect did he have for you then! Yeah OK he did own up to it and tell you but he should have told you straight away.

EXACTLY the he told me he ddnt tell me right away because he was afraid to lose me or what I might do
I'm one crazy female... bt he tld me he ddnt want to lose me or whtver.
Thts why he kept it frm me bt I don't understand why you telling me now? You know, I respect that he told me but why now? && its lke if he would have told me bck then it wouldn't been as bad because in march that this happened he also had sex with another female..

OK so he's kissed another girl and told you. You obviously forgave him.

He had sex with another girl told you and ou forgave him??

SO he would tell you about the sex and kiss but not the other?

My main most important question is if you have forgiven him before and he hasn't changed why forgive him again?

You know the saying fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me...

Yes I have heard of it, then to top it off that little situation I just tld you, he did it when were broken up bt all the break ups we had was for a day or 2, lke seriously? Its lke he is saying every time we break up he will pull this on me..

He breaks up with you sleeps with another girl then gets back with you in 2 days. So in other words he breaks up with you so he can sleep around without cheating.

When you got back together after did he come to you or did you go to him?

I was always the one to break up with him bt it was for reasons necessary because I will forever dwell on my past.. bt he never broke up with me... bt either way it goes its still no excuse to do that. Lngest we broke up was almost 2weeks and he always tried gettinbck with me... bt I never did that to him, I couldn't do that && if it just so happened to have happened then I would have tld him that same night not keep for 3months to myself.. jst the fct that he kept it frm me for 3months hurtss..

Well there are a few things to consider.

1, Do you really want date him knowing that if you argue one day he will be in someone else's bed the next?

2, If you stay with him, what can you do to make him realise that he can't do this anymore... Can you make him change? I doubt he will.

3, Can you walk away from him knowing that you can find someone in the future who will treat you right

I cnt walk away because we been through so much && I'm used to being with him you know what I mean && it will kill me to see him with somebody else. As far as the being in somebody else's bed... idk much about that. What do you think I should do or how should I act to mke him realize he cnt do this anymre.. whts yours feedback; lke if you were in my shoes considering to tke him bck what are some things you would or maybe how would you act towards him now.

I would tell him that your undecided on what your doing. That at this point he is on thin ice.

That your not sure if staying with him is going to make you happy.

I would tell him that IF he wants you HE has to WORK FOR IT!

IF he wins you over you need to tell him that if this ever happens again he is to tell you straight away. (dont say you will dump him cause he won't tell you) But if it doesn't happen again you need to dump him. I honestly don't think you should take him back now. Your letting him walk all over you.

You need to show him that your not going to be pushed around. If that means that every time he wants to go out he has to report to you every so often to show he isn't doing anything wrong. OR if he wants to go out HE has to take you with him.

Yeahh I'm sure unsure at this point I want to stay with him bt something is telling me to move on.. im very confused at this point I just want to break down && cryy...

Your heart is saying stay...
Your head is saying RUN!

I think you should listen to your head.

Think of it this way, Your heart will shatter and you will cry and think about him a lot. But that will fade and you will become a stronger person. You will find someone who won't hurt you like that.

Or if you listen to your heart... You will not trust him, every time he goes out you'll sit there and worry. If you argue not only will you be angry with him you'll be wondering if he is in someone else's bed.

Its up to you what you do. I just hope you make the right choice for you

Look I will tell you something that you should have in mind "if he did those it once what makes you think he won’t do it again”. Yea you might love him etc... but as a woman you deserved to be treated with respected if he those not respected you and you don’t give yourself your place then who will? Ask yourself that question and get back with me and tell me your answer. Keep in mind if he those this as a couple imagine if you get married with him and have kids would you take him back? Yeah maybe forgave him because we are humans we make mistakes and god can judge everyone not us.

... screw that guy and his sick twisted game of yo-yo girl listen to me you need to break up with this little ******* he is obviously does not want you and if you did get married what would he do then?