I don't enjoy sex with my partner... but I allways fake for his sake am I doing the right thing?

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Originally Posted by natalie048

I dont enjoy sex with my partner... but i allways fake for his sake am i doing the right thing??

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How is a guy supposed to know what works for you if your faking it? He'll just keep doing what he's doing because he thinks it actually pleases you!

Have you ever had an orgasm by yourself? If not you should begin there. Explore your body, get to know what turns you on and then invite your partner and show him what you like!

Don't fake it, you just end up hurting yourself!

No, your not doing the right thing.

Mudweiser is right. There's really no point to faking it. Time to stop that and be prepared for him to ask what's wrong when all of a sudden what he's been doing all along isn't working out for you.

How old are you? (I notice this was asked on the Relationships Board and not Adult Sexuality)

As Mudweiser said, faking doesn't help anything. It makes matters worse.

You should be able to be open and honest with your partner about what turns you on, what turns you off, whether you even want to have sex, etc. If you can't be, then you shouldn't be having sex with that person.

Think about it, if you can't tell him what you like or don't like, how would you be able to discuss a possible pregnancy or health concern?

If you can not be open about sex in a relationship. Then maybe there should be no relationship. The communication is defiantly not there.

My boyfriend he allways does things to me but when it comes to me I feel like I just physically cant! Ive been with him for over 3 years now and I do want to please him obviously but when I ever I'm about to give him head I pull away...
Can someone help me and give me a few tips.

First tip: If you are not comfortable doing something, DO NOT DO IT.

Second tip: You do not have to put the penis into your mouth to give pleasure. You can lick, kiss and stroke with your tongue without ever inserting the penis.

Third tip: If your boyfriend is pressuring you to do it, then dump him. No one should be coerced into doing something they are not comfortable with.


PS---How old are you?

I'm 19..
His not preassuring me a tall his completely fine but I feel its not fair if I don't.

How about you...

-throw on some honey/chocolate syrup/flavored lube in the mix... whatever liquidy goodness you'd like. I've done it before and well he was into it and so was I.

-talk to him. Does he know you don't like it? Does he return the favor-- like does he go down on you?

Synnen gave you good advice as well.

Hello n:

Giving head is a learning experience... I don't think it comes natural to anyone. However, when learned properly, it's MUCH more pleasurable than one would be lead to believe.

Now, I don't know HOW other men approach getting head, but I've seen some stuff in the porn I watch that TURNS me OFF. I'm talking about a guy grabbing a girl's head and forcing himself deep down her throat to the point where she gags...

Boy! That is NOT a turn on for me. I want her to take me all in, but I want her to WANT to take me all in. That takes practice, but some girls DO learn it (and I want all their phone numbers).

You've been with him since you were 16, and unfortunately, he's not much of a teacher. Most people aren't. That's OK. You can learn to enjoy it other ways. Hopefully, you will, because from what I understand, girls who love it - really LOVE it.

excon

There is nothing wrong with not liking oral sex. You Don't have to do it. I hate it, and my boyfriend NEVER makes me do it. It sounds like you're guy is being understanding and that's a good thing. Maybe talk to him about practicing?

About your partner he is not aware of how you like it, you need to have more talks about it but don't let him know that you have been faking or you don't like it, it might actually work :)





shahu