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I(male) love this person that so happens to be the same gender(male) as me. I couldn't care less about his gender and I am not into guys. Is there a word for this? I know its not gay or bi because I hate other people that are same sex as me, I just love this person so much!
I have no idea what you call it. Why do you really care what to call it.
Why do people always have to put labels on things? Labels in today world is what causes different people lots of problems.
As a friend or more than a friend kind of love?Quote:
Originally Posted by scout109
Yes, it's called friendship you big dut.Quote:
I couldn't care less about his gender and I am not into guys. Is there a word for this?
Now I know your under 18 because this sounds stupid "I hate other people who are same sex as me" that's something a preteen says...Quote:
I know its not gay or bi because I hate other people that are same sex as me,
Good, it's called friendship, now be merry and hang out all summer long.Quote:
I just love this person so much!
OmgQuote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
Thanks for the help!Quote:
Originally Posted by mudweiser
No, really, it, forget that I said anything.
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Originally Posted by scout109
What is the relationship now with this other person, are you very good friends already?
If you feel love, as an attraction, to someone you enjoy spending time with, and they are, or could be a friend that you can trust and confide in, and develop a relationship with, you are very fortunate.
Love may have a different meaning for different people. To be in love with a friend, is different than loving your friend, as a friend. I love some of my friends too, but I'm not 'in love' with them.
I see nothing wrong with having strong feelings for anybody that is a positive influence in your life. Regardless of sexual orientation or gender.
Don't be afraid to have a relationship with anybody, but tread carefully when you use the word 'love', as it may also have a different meaning, for him.
I've never heard the term pansexual before, but looked it up, and I have to agree with the philosophy of the meaning.
As JesusHelper said, why do we have to put labels and restrictions on people we love- at all.
Thanks for that, learned something new.
Jesushelper has a good point. Why put a label on yourself?
Mudweiser also has a point. Are you certain that it isn't a very deep feeling of friendship. Sometimes the different types of love get confused for each other.
Hate is a very strong word and saying 'I hate other people that are the same sex as me' is usually indicative of some inner conflict and denial. You have obviously given the thought of being attracted to people of the same sex as you some thought. I think when you have had those inner discussions you shoved the idea away not because of how you truly feel but because of what you believe you should feel. Embrace yourself as you are. Accept that you find people attractive (don't limit yourself to one sex). It will help get rid of some of the confusion you are feeling about this particular person and yourself.
Love is a very special feeling. It doesn't care about color, race, religion, gender, etc. We have a tendency to try to limit it. To say, I am 'this' so I can only love 'this'. I can't love 'that' because 'that' is not the same as me. For the most part the limitations shouldn't matter. Ones that should are: does the other person feel the same way; is the other person in a relationship; is age a factor (consent-wise or gap between); and others along those lines.
Do you think this other person has the same feelings you do? Is he in a relationship (for that matter, are you?) at this time? IF both of you are single (and not healing from past break ups, rebounds are never good) can you be open with him?
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