First Backgroung:I am married, have 1 and half year old son who is taken care by his granny when I am on job.

I have joined a new company as an HR manager where the role is too good but little demading. I have to travel though remotely. In my previous company I was in my comfort zone, although workwise it wasn;t challenging.

My problem is due to my new job, I am facing issues at home from my in-laws for late coming and travelling.plus being an introvert, I think it will be difficult for me to go for outings, picnics,movies etc, although I arrange them.they are fun loving company and that makes me little uncomfortable.

Now I am confused should I go back to my previous company which will possibly solve my family problem or stay back here and take up the challenge.

It's my personal life versus personal growth.

Please guide .

Issues at home will work themselves out over the long run, is the way I see it. I would take personal growth any day. I am sure you can find a happy medium between your in laws and your work if you really enjoy it. Company outings are not a high priority. You don't have to attend every one that comes up, only the ones that can be conveniently managed. Can you take your son with you when you attend them ?

Tick

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Issues at home will work themselves out over the long run, is the way I see it. I would take personal growth any day. I am sure you can find a happy medium between your in laws and your work if you really enjoy it. Company outings are not a high priority. You dont have to attend every one that comes up, only the ones that can be conveniently managed. Can you take your son with you when you attend them ?

tick

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Thks tick.
Now I have faced issues pertaining to me receiving friendly messages, calls at home after office hours, however work related. My in-laws being orthodox has made a big fuss out of it. I was disturbed for quite some time. I had kind of informed that in my previous co. but I can't keep telling this to every one here being an HR person.My husband though supportive gets in a catch 22 situation.
Hence I thought may be I play safe.

Yes, I can see what you mean. What nationality are your in laws ? I don't know what you mean by 'playing safe'. Does that mean giving up your job because this is a problem at home? Sorry, If this is the case, then, life, I don't agree with you as a career woman giving up the kind of work you enjoy and thrive of of; especially if the money is good, it must certainly assist the domestic situation. Do your in laws live with you ? Is that part of the problem? Or do you drive your little one to your in laws so they can have him for the day while you work. Maybe they feel stressed by this, and possibly you should relieve yourself of that situation by finding alternative means of someone else caring for the child. That would certainly relieve you of having to deal with the opinions of someone else from another generation who doesn't understand how the world works nowadays. Sounds like your husband is supportive, but I can see him being in a catch-22, but you and he and your son have your own lives to live.

I am certainly not trying to impress my own feelings on your situation, just possibly trying to interject another way of thinking and dealing with the situation you put forward.

I am sure other members here will have their own input, so you will have a lot to think about and mull over.

Tick