Need help to get over one sided love I feel for a married man who loves his wife. He flirts with me and I feel he likes and cares for me... but my feelings for him are beyond just like. I feel so used, I feel like a loser and am losing myself confidence. I love him and want his love too. He told me that he likes me and feels for me... and he asked me if I feel for him too... I did not answer then. Then he asked me that question couple of time. But I just smiled and could not say what I felt for him. He then told me that I should not keep things inside me and let them out.

When he is not around I keep thinking about him, I am attracted to him. But I can't tell him that my feelings are beyond just liking him... I love him and want him.

I know he will never leave his wife. I am so messed up in my mind. He is so perfect for me. Its affecting my health, confidence and happiness. How do I get over him? How to not think of him? How to live a normal life without thinking of him?

Im assuming you are fairly young, late teens early twenties, also you didn't say if you and he have embarked upon a physical relationship.

However I can feel your pain, you know that anything you embark upon with this man is destined to go no-where fast, and you are correct he won't leave his wife, he's married he's off limits and this is only going to mean one thing for you heart break.

It is also totally wrong to encourage this Man, he has a wife who no doubt loves and trusts him, don't help another Male betray an unsuspecting Female.

One day in the future you yourself will no doubt end up getting married, would you want your man to do as this man is hoping to do? Put yourself in his wife's shoes.

Don't have anything more to do with him, change your phone number, stay away from places where you know he may frequent, Don't answer his texts or calls, Dont be available to be used, because used is what you will be, Hes Married, you're worth more.

Have self respect for you and your body don't waste yourself on this Man, what goes around comes around, and besides why would you want to be 2nd best, when you can be someone's number one.

Please be strong and don't let this man use you.

its normal to want something that you can't have, The more restriction you get the more you want to break the rules. Now all this comes down to ethics and morals, I don't know if you are a religious person, but what you will be doing is considered adultery.
What you need to do is stop everything, think and breath, his married! That's all you need to know. Live your life don't live it with drama and making it difficult.
any man that's not faithful will take advantage of a person that will let them. Your nothing more then a booty call, a piece of a*^. His tired of having the same meat every night so having you will make his sex life better. Please don't fall for his sweet talk.
question to ask yourself:
what do I gain if I end up being the other women?
If he decide to be with me, what future do I have with him?

Thanks so much... I can express my feelings and get advice, it's a great place. No, I have not had any physical relationship with him. You are right, a person will use me if I let him use me... I think I need to be strong inside... and not fall for any sweet talk.

Somewhere I feel he is wanting happiness and I can give him happiness and love. I know it's a stupid thought... God help me!! I need to get farrrrrrrr away from him.

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