I'm at least 95% sure he's interested, but he didn't ask for my number?
I know it's long but please read on, I met a very special guy and would love any advice on this...
So I met this guy who’ve I’ve seen twice. The first time was at a mutual friend’s 27th birthday party. I saw him he immediately seemed interested in me as he got out of his way multiple times to talk to me, and looked over at me as he talked to others, etc,…The only problem was that I didn’t really flirt back, because I’m not too much of a flirt. We ended up playing sex truth or dare organized by an iPhone app (birthday girl’s game of choice…) and my dare was to do a seductive dance for him. I gave him a lap dance (nothing too dirty of course…) and then felt like a slut (mostly because I then realized a seductive dance doesn’t NECESSARILY have to be a lap dance, I could’ve just danced in front of him, anyway honest misinterpretation).. To summarize, I ended up shaking his hand at the end of the night rather than giving him a hug just cause had to minimize the slut feeling as much as I could…Anyway, after talking to some guy friends about how worried I was about not showing him enough interest, they advised that I add him on Facebook, which I did. (Which I at first opposed because it would clearly mean I SEARCHED for him and everything, but hey sounded like it could be a good idea to show that I was interested).
Anyway, our mutual friend organized another get together at a club/bar two days later and he was there. And contrary to my fears of him being completely freaked out by me, he showed immediate interest as he did the first time we met: He spotted me from across the room, looked at me as he talked to other people (women and men), and gave me his utmost attention when he talked to me. As we talked (which happened a bit later through the night, after talking amongst groups, and other people…) we slowly separated from the group and talked only to each other. As he talked to me he would touch my arm slightly and smile a lot. I could tell he was interested, and he didn’t seem like he was loosely flirting with me, he looked genuinely interested. Anyway, fast forward to the end of the night, we ended up going to a diner (all of us) and Charles ended up driving myself and another guy friend (who was gay, just specifying so no one thinks he may have been threatened by him in any way.) And the others went in another car. After the eating, Charles drove us back to the club/bar to get our cars from the valet. Our friend Doug, who we had also just met that night said by to Charles as I gathered my purse, and waited out the door for me, then I said bye Charles, THIS time giving him a hug and said it was great to see him. As I gave him a hug, he kissed me on the cheek.
Anyway, seems like he’s interested for sure right? At least that is the impression I got from him, but he never asked me for my number and hasn’t contacted me on Facebook. My friends think he didn’t ask for my number because it may have been an awkward point to get it (he dropped us off on a red curb, and Doug was waiting out the door), but he could have asked for it earlier in the night no? Also, the night only happened one night ago (not last night but the night before) so maybe it’s too early for him to contact me? But maybe not? I’m so confused because every single he gave me was that he was interested, and yet he didn’t mention once that we should hang out, or that he wants to see me again or anything. He comes from Chicago, I don’t know if that means anything and he is the nicest most genuine guy ever, so I would really doubt he would be playing me or anything. We’re both actors, and represented by the same management, and Doug and our other mutual friend work at the office and have both said he is such an innocent and nice guy. So if he’s not toying with me, whyyyy is he not contacting me? Is he waiting for another group event to see each other? Which will happen, but it may not be that soon! Should I just wait and see, and contact him in a week if he hasn’t contacted me yet? Or should I just wait till the next time I see him (if he hasn’t yet contacted me…) Is this normal behavior? Also he just moved in LA in January so he’s new…if that means anything…Anyway, I haven’t liked a guy in 6 months since I broke up with my boyfriend, and I’ve only kissed one guy (my ex) because I rarely find guys who interest me. Not in a pretentious way, it’s just that I have a hard time connecting with many guys in LA. But he is absolutely adorable and I would hate to let him go. Also, I’m 21, and he’s much older. I don’t know how much older but on one of his websites it says he was in college in 2001, so I’m thinking he’s at least 26 or 27, but maay be older. He definitely doesn’t look any older than 30 and on his acting resume it says his age range is 20-26, even though it doesn’t necessarily mean he is in that age range.
ANYWAY sorry for the long message, just want to make sure I include everything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! He’s a special guy!
Thanks in advance!
Forgot to mention that I definitely flirted with him on the second night. Even Doug said it looked like we were both very into each other...
Was I blown off or is he playing hard to get?
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Ok so I've talked about this guy before in "I'm 95% sure he's interested..."
To get the full story but to sum it up. I met this guy I know was interested in me, through all the signals he was giving me it was obvious: arm touching, staring, and he kissed me on the cheek at the end of the night. Plus yesterday (morning) a friend of mine confirmed that at a party when another mutual friend asked who he liked at the party he said me.
Anyway, he definitely seemed very interested but never asked for my number or contacted me through Facebook even though we were friends (I added him). Anyway, last night I just happened to have bumped into him at a bar/hotel type thing. Of course, I was incredibly excited and he came up to me to say hi and we both introduced our group of friends. We chatted briefly and he said he'd see me later on in the night. Anyway, "later on" came, and he never really approached me. Only, at one point he was stepping out of the bathroom hallway and looked like he was maybe searching for his friends behind a friend of mine but it also kind of looked like he was stalling to talk to me (but that may just be me). Anyway, we locked eyes and we kind of did the "so what's going on" talk thing, and he said he kept losing his friends, and then we kind of talked about his work and mine and started to talk about how he liked his life in los angeles (he moved this year from chicago). Anyway, after I asked him about that, he said he liked it, then said "I'm sorry, let me talk to my friends for a sec, I'll talk to you in a sec" (or something of the sort), and he left. Now, I don' t know if I was supposed to stand there and wait for him, but I didn't. It just felt strange that he would end the conversation and say something like that. Maybe "I need to tell my friends something real quick 1 sec stay here" would have worked but here, he said TALK to them? Anyway, I went to find my friends who were just a few feet from his and his friends, and chatted with them. By chatted, of course I mean ranted. As I was ranting Charles'(that's his name) roommate came right next to my friend and leaned on a chair looking around. It kind of looked as if he was trying to listen to our conversation. Anyway, Charles never came back to talk to me, and he didn't even say bye.
That is where my confusion begins. I was talking to a guy friend who was at the party and he said that that was a very common guy thing to do, and guys usually do that to get girls they really want to get them thinking. I believe, as annoying as immature as it is, it could be that he was doing that cause that would then explain why his roommate may have been listening in on the conversation to hear my reaction. That's also how a good friend of mine landed his girlfriend by blowing her off at first which strangely intrigued her. I'll state right now, that I do not find it to be a turn on at all. Anyway, it's also important to note that he was there with a good amount of friends, guys and girls. And at many points throughout the night he was talking to these two girls who came with him. He had also paid for their drinks when coming in (he bought his at the same time as my friends and I), so I'm thinking maybe he came with a date or something and felt strange talking to me. (but couldn't he have just said that? ) Or I mean there is also the option that he's just not that into me anymore. But wouldn't that be a very quick change of feeling? I mean, maybe the conversation wasn't too great at first (jobs, what's going on in your life.. you know pretty typical get to know you stuff) but I feel like people make an effort when they are interested... and last night did not feel like the two other nights I had seem him a few weeks ago (It was about2 weeks ago I think.. ) The two first nights I met him, he was all over me and looked like he would never let me go. Here, he was polite and nice (until he basically blew me off! ) but there wasn't that pulling attraction that was there the previous nights..
Thoughts?