Is there hope to rekindle this relationship? Or, should I move on.
After dating for a year, my boyfriend said he felt pressured (not by me, by society) to make our relationship serious. He wasn't ready for this and didn't think he was over his divorce. He wanted to take some time to work through it--so we broke up. I'm 32, he's 36 and we're both divorced from long term marriages where our spouses cheated. For the first time, he told me he loved me and had considered marriage with me, but he didn't know what that meant. I said I loved him too--I do.
I asked him for a month of space to think about things and get perspective and after that we could be friends or see if there was more. Now, the month is over and we've been talking every day and going on dates once a week for the last few weeks. He and I have both asked each other. We're awkwardly affectionate around each other like the beginning of a new relationship, but there hasn't been any french kissing or sex just hugging, pecks and cuddling. He's supportive of my career, offers to help me move, wants to know everything I think and shares his most intimate thoughts with me. He is trying to work through his issues.
Last night we cuddled and kissed (closed mouth) and talked for hours, but he won't spend the night or have sex. I told him I thought that he longed to be close to me but that he had a ton of confusing thoughts swirling around. He said this was true and that he's tired of being the single guy around all his married friends.
My question is:
1. Is there hope/likelihood that we will officially get back together or I am deluded that this relationship will work out and I need to just move on?
2. If there is hope for us, do you have any tips to help me be patient with him? I'm so anxious for it to work out I want to move forward with him now.
Thank you for your thoughtful answers.