Ask Me Help Desk - Joint legal custody laws ca

I currently share legal custody with my child's father... He is always harassing me about how she is doing is school and when I do not answer his emails he gets very vulgar... My question is, do I HAVE to provide him that information for does he hold the responsibllity of obtaining that on his own??

"joint legal custody" means that you and your ex will both have decision-making rights, responsibility, and authority relating to your children's health, education, and welfare. Normally under joint legal custody you are required to cooperate with your ex in regards to making big decisions, to keep him informed of anything that might affect your children's health, education, and welfare, and to keep him informed of your whereabouts, etc.

If you share joint legal custody with him you cannot exclude him from his rights. You won't get fined or go to jail, but it will probably be embarrassing because you'll have to go to the court -- which may harm the children.

3003. "Joint legal custody" means that both parents shall share the
Right and the responsibility to make the decisions relating to the
Health, education, and welfare of a child.
3025. Notwithstanding any other provision of law, access to records
And information pertaining to a minor child, including, but not
Limited to, medical, dental, and school records, shall not be denied
To a parent because that parent is not the child's custodial parent.

You do not have direct obligation to do it but generally it is viewed as your attempt to prevent him for exercising his rights.
By the way This is the first time I am reading that if a father is interested in how his daughter is doing ,it is considered as "HARASSMENT"

I guess my question should have been, do I have the responsibility of mailing him report cards?? I do cooperate with him as far decision making and he knows everything about her Dr, where she goes to school etc... The thing is that he emails me wanting me to give him reports on her school work... Isn't that his responsibility to contact the school and request those documents if he so choose to have them?? BTW the emails sent intail a lot more that just how she is doing, more like what I am doing... Anyway I just feel like if he wants that info he should get it himself. He also has not seen or talked to our daughter since Xmas 2009, yet he has time to email me 5X a day... that is why I called it harassment...

Well would you rather him making appointments with the school teachers, and I guess how come you get the report cards all the time, not him,

But you should, if you get copies be sending them to him within a day or two, scan them and email them.

It is obvoius that you are not wanting to share the child's activities with him, using the child as a fighting tool.

So perhaps all of the report cards should just go to him, and he can send you copies, how would you feel if you were not getting them.

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Originally Posted by aavbrooks

I guess my question should have been, do I have the responsibility of mailing him report cards??? I do cooperate with him as far decision making and he knows everything about her Dr, where she goes to school etc... The thing is that he emails me wanting me to give him reports on her school work... Isnt that his responsibility to contact the school and request those documents if he so choose to have them??? BTW the emails sent intail alot more that just how she is doing, more like what i am doing... Anywho I just feel like if he wants that info he should get it himself. He also has not seen or talked to our daughter since Xmas 2009, yet he has time to email me 5X a day... that is why i called it harrassment...

What does your court order say about all of this ?

The court order says that he can obtain any information pertaining to the child, but that it is the responsibilituy of each parent to request it whether it be from the school or the dr...

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Originally Posted by GV70;2380143You do not have direct obligation to do it but generally it is viewed as your attempt to prevent him for exercising his rights.
By the way This is the first time I am reading that if a father is interested in how his daughter is doing ,it is considered as [B

"HARASSMENT"[/B]

I don't think she meant that him asking about their daughter is harassing, but the manner in which he does it & other information unrelated to the child.

I am getting frustrated because when my son is with his father, he will not answer the phone. The other states I am to know his whereabouts when he is with his father, and that I can call at anytime. But if I call to talk to my son & see where he is, his father rejects my calls & says I am harassing him. So I can understand him getting frustratedn being out of the loop. However if the court order says he can obtain the information himself via contact the school, that is his responsibility. If he is becoming vulgar, that is harassment.