Layesterday I went to my salsa dance class and guess what, I saw my ex boyfriend walking in with is new girlfriend. I was devastated and couldn't concentrate anymore. At the end of the session I went say hi to him because he seemed ignoring him. I was calm and showed him that I didn't care about him. But once I got home, I started crying like a bay and couldn't sleep the whole night. I was pissed because he keeps calling me and wanted to hang out with me. Now I didn't know what to think I am just mad and decided to change my phone number so he wouldn't be able to talk to me.

So he calls you and wants to hang out, you ignore him/show him that you're not interested, and he is dating again?. sounds like a real jerk. Instead of changing your number, why don't you call the guy and meet with him? I guess we should know whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you?

Ignore him, and if he can't take a hint, threaten to tell his g/f. You may have been caught by surprise, but there was no need to speak to him to prove anything.

If he's ignoring you, then you should ignore him. Don't put yourself out there to be hurt. He's your ex. Don't even give him the time of day. Changing your number was a step in the right direction.

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Originally Posted by KyleS28

so he calls you and wants to hang out, you ignore him/show him that youre not interested, and he is dating again?... sounds like a real jerk. instead of changing your number, why dont you call the guy and meet with him? i guess we should know whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you?

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This post is Spot on. Hitting the nail on the head. The problem is with her not him.

Two months ago I decided to break up with my boyfriend because he has always been unsuportive, cheap and selfish. We live in the same state but not together. So one day when he was out of town I asked him to spend a week in his house and he asked me to pay utilities if I stay there. That sounded awkward to me and I didn't know what to say. So I changed my mind and stay in my apartment. A week later I decided to break up this relationship because I would like a man to be supportive and vice versa. So today I feel a little bit guilty and thinking that my decision was not wise at all.

Tough call... some people would find it perfectly acceptable to expect you to help out with the bills while staying at his house, others would find it odd that a boyfriend would ask such a thing.

You'll have to look at any other situations that have caused you to be concerned about whether this is a relationship you want to pursue. You are actually in a good position, since you are not currently together, to be able to step back and decide whether you feel these traits are important enough, or frequently observed enough, to be a deal breaker for you. Take your time... be careful you aren't considering getting back together simply because you miss him. It would be perfectly normal to miss him... but do his good qualities outweigh the ones that cause you concern, or could you learn to accept them... because things aren't likely to change.

If you thought it was a good idea at the time, chances are it was a good decision. Everyone feels guilty, confused, and/or sad after a breakup! Its OK! Don't doubt your own decisions and follow your own heart! :) hope this helps...

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Originally Posted by samy6

always been unsuportive, cheap and selfish.

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How many more bad qualities does he need before you had enough?

Sounds to me that nor matter how many pros he has, the cons are too negative to have a healthy relationship.

When I merged your threads I realized that you were only having a bad day, and when you give it thought, you will realize your decision was a good one when you made it, and is still good now.

Ex's are ex's.