I have been in a relationship for six months now. My boyfriend was very affectionate for the first month or so. He asked me to start staying with him more frequently, and I basically moved in after one month. We live together happily, he takes very good care of me, but he is not affectionate at all. No kissing, hugging, cuddling or sex without asking, and sometimes even when I ask. When we watch movies, we no longer cuddle on the couch together, but lie on opposite sides. I feel like what little affection I do have is waning. I've spoken to him about it, and his only response was "would you rather it was you or me?" I felt like this was avoiding the topic and he wanted to go to sleep almost immediately after. The last time I slept with him was the day after I asked, and I feel like he's just trying to shut me up. I am a very affectionate person, who has been kindly affectionate (backrubs, oral, anything) when it comes to him. I try to give him anything and everything. Yet. I feel confused, and rejected. I do feel grateful for all the good things he does for me. I just want to feel close to him and attractive. I've let him know any sort of affection will do... help please!

I'm confused about how he's taking good care of you, but not being affectionate.

If you simply said that he wasn't being affectionate or taking care of you, I'd say to get out of there as fast as you can. I would only say this because in my personal experience, I was with someone who was very affectionate in the beginning (kissing, holding hands, etc.) but in the end maybe he was just using me and I didn't feel close to him like in your situation.

I felt like there was something lacking. It sounds like this may be the case with you too... The best advice I could give is to try talking with him and tell him that you feel like there is something missing in the relationship. If he starts working with you to solve the problem, then you guys will be able to work it out. However, if he does nothing, says that it's all in your mind, or basically avoids the situation, then I think it probably won't work out.

Why are you staying in an affectionless relationship? If you've confronted him about your concerns and nothing has changed, what makes you think that something will change later on?

If he can't give you what you want, then find someone else who will. Don't trap yourself in a suffocating relationship where you have to ask for everything to get something.

Don’t you think you deserve someone who can be as affectionate towards you, as you are them? You are young, and you've only been with this man for 6 months... he isn't going to change. You must think about your future, and if you want to be truly happy.

What are his reasons for not being affectionate? Have the two of you ever really sat down and talked about it? He shouldn't brush you off when you for want to talk about it. If he really loves you, he would also want you to be happy.

I have zero tolerance when it comes to disrespect from anyone. Withholding affection is controlling behavior. Your boyfriend needs to know when he's treating you badly. You should not accept this behavior at any cost.

You deserve a good man, who will love you unconditionally, and show you how much you mean to him, while taking into consideration your feelings, and your wants. I know you said that there are good parts in this relationship, but have you thought about them in relation to the bad parts? It's important that you sit and really think about your future. No one deserves to be unhappy, or sad.

Life is short, but if you make the wrong choices, it can seem very long. Please think about it. It isn't wrong to put your feelings and happiness first.

Maybe you should have taken longer than a month to move in with a guy you didn't know that well. Now that you know him better, you have a decision to make, Go, or stay.

Maybe the both of you moved to fast. Maybe neither one of you were ready to live with one another. Maybe he is feeling smothered by you because you want to be touchy feely all the time. Some guys just don't like it.

Maybe you need to put things in reverse for awhile. Move back out and work on the basics. If he is still the same way, then maybe the relationship is over.

If you want to save your relationship, I would suggest to move out. If nothing changes between the two of you, then go your own way and find a guy who will give you want you want.