I left my girlfriend and want her back. I really hurt her and have done and said all I can to make it right. I love her so much. We spend time together and laugh just like we did before. We still sleep together but she won't say if she wants me back or not all she says is she doesn't know.

Very simple you left her you hurt her, she still likes you because she's hanging out with you and sleeping with you but she doesn't want a relationship or anything serious with you because you might hurt her again the more aloof and NOT tied down she is the better because then if you leave again its OK u were never together

Sounds like she wants a friends with benefits arrangement.

Take a hint, she only wants you to be her booty call.

You broke up for a reason, so leave each other alone so that you can heal properly.

You need to leave her alone guy, or she gets what's she wants, but you will never get what you want.

What you have done, comes back to haunt you. And will continue until you stop it.

She's still hurting and knows that she can't trust you.

You have to earn her trust back and the only way that can happen is by postivie actions over time.

Seems like you hurt her pretty badly. When someone breaks up with another person, the person who was broken up with will feel sad for a very long time. I bet she's questioning whether she can trust that you won't leave her again or hurt her emotionally again. There's not much you can do. Maybe just wait and try to show how much you care for her. However, I don't think sleeping with her is a good idea. I bet she's questioning if you're just spending time with her because you want to sleep with someone.

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Originally Posted by Pally1973

I left my girlfriend and want her back. I really hurt her and have done and said all I can to make it right. I love her so much. We spend time together and laugh just like we did before. We still sleep together but she won't say if she wants me back or not all she says is she doesn't know.

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It wasn't love to begin with, or you would have worked out your differences by communicating, and changing and growing within the relationship.

You hurt her, and after the fact, tried to make it right. That is putting the horse before the cart, and seldom works after a split takes place.

Maybe she is sleeping with you as payback. The more she spends time with bonking with you, the more you want her back.

That's called revenge, and it's not a very good way to heal from a relationship.

Muster up some dignity, and realize that if your relationship is now only based on things that are purely physical, with the odd giggle, there isn't much of a foundation there to base any sort of future on.

Why do you allow it to happen. My advice is to step up, figure out what you want in a real relationship, and hold out until you find it.

If she does not know what she wants, leave her alone until she figures it out, but stay out of her bed. That complicates things and gets neither of you nowhere.