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  • May 29, 2010, 06:00 PM
    confuzed1
    I have a bad feeling about the guy that I am dating...
    OK. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite some time now. We tell each other that we love each other and do all this flirty stuff. Well, today after he flirted and kissed me. I kissed him, flirted, and told him that I love him (same as usual). His reply was "hehe". Which was unusual and concerned me... What does this mean? Please help Because I need some advice! :'(
  • May 29, 2010, 06:02 PM
    Wondergirl
    What do YOU think he meant?
  • May 29, 2010, 06:11 PM
    confuzed1

    I do not know. He says the stuff 1st and I reply that I have the same love feeling back. This time it was different and I do not know what to think except that he doesn't feel the same..
  • May 29, 2010, 07:12 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Communication, he could mean he was happy, he could mean he things you are silly or he could think he has taken advantage of you.

    If you and he are not talking about what you each think or feel, then you have other serious issues to deal with
  • May 30, 2010, 02:29 PM
    Devorameira

    I can make some guesses, but you'll only know for sure if you ask him.

    Communication is vital to a healthy relationship.
  • May 30, 2010, 04:04 PM
    talaniman

    How old are you? How old is he?

    It seems you should just ask him what he means, and not just assume, and let your imagination lead you the wrong way.
  • Jun 7, 2010, 08:09 PM
    confuzed1

    We both are 17. Idk what he meant even when I asked him. Right now his behavior is lovey dovey when it comes to our relationship. When some guys try and hit on me or soemthing, he will go into protective mode and take care of it right away, especially recently. When he is not here with me and I tell him about if someone is bothering me, he'll let me defend myself for him. He tells me constantly that he loves me. We talk every chance that we both get. Things are going pretty good I guess.

    And you are all right, commmunication is key to a healthy relationship. Thank you for that


    The main part is that we are there for each other, we always have been even before we where dating. I think that is a good thing
  • Jun 7, 2010, 08:40 PM
    bordo3k

    He probably didn't mean anything by it- his feelings are probably still the same.
  • Jun 8, 2010, 07:42 AM
    I wish

    If you have a bad feeling, then try to work things out. If you can't, then put a STOP to the relationship. No one is forcing you to stay with him.
  • Jun 8, 2010, 12:05 PM
    talaniman

    You keep talking until you are not confused about what he means. Your right, communicating is the key.
  • Jun 10, 2010, 11:51 AM
    confuzed1

    Hmmm, well you are all right. I should communicate more. I hope he didn't mean anything by it. But tat is true, if even worse bad feelings do come then it would be good to end it. However I don't really have any more bad feelings at the moment. In any case, thank you all for you're advice
  • Nov 23, 2010, 03:06 PM
    confuzed1
    I'm a little scared
    I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. We are very much in love and all that. Today we where just cuddling and he told me, "I want you, I want you, I want you". I was confuzed by what he meant, so I asked and he said that it means something sexual. I said OK hun. For some reason... on the inside this made me upset... and I have no idea why...
    Can anyone please give me advice?
  • Nov 23, 2010, 03:48 PM
    mystific

    How old are you both?

    As a suggestion, if it doesn't feel right inside to do anything. Always go with your gut instinct.

    Talk with your boyfriend and explain to him that you don't feel comfortable with this.

    You'll know when you're ready.

    Good luck.
  • Nov 23, 2010, 06:18 PM
    rishav
    Hey you are scared because you are not comfortable with your boyfriend. If you both are cuddling and he says he want you its obvious he is demanding sex. If you are repeating the same thing and he demands that never let him seduce you in any way. You will loose your control and he wants that only. Beware and try to make a distance and see if he is reacting if he doesn't gets your physical love, and trust me if he keeps on demanding its not love by heart its love for sex.
    Thanks
  • Nov 24, 2010, 01:59 PM
    answerme_tender

    Confuzed,

    I went back and read some of your earlier post. You may want to sit down and have a conversation with your mother or father about relationships. It should never be embarrassing to talk to them about sex. Most parents don't know how to approach you, but are very glad when you ask them questions. They will be able to also talk about different signals that are given out, by voice,body language. What to watch for and to be careful about. You seem to need to have this conversation with them. Its never too late. If they aren't available to have this try a school counselor or Aunt, or even a close girlfriends mother.
  • Nov 24, 2010, 02:15 PM
    Alty

    When a guy says he wants you he means sex. It made you feel bad inside because you're not ready.

    It's time to learn to communicate with your boyfriend. If you want to know what he means, ask him. Only he knows what his words mean, and what his actions mean. Do you understand?

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