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  • May 29, 2010, 01:47 AM
    sjon01
    My Boss and Wife are threaten me with issues out side work
    Please help
    I started working for my brother in law two years ago.
    He s Done nothing but bully me . Now he s making me redundant refusing to pay me and his wife is threaten me about my private life I don t know where to turn
  • May 29, 2010, 03:22 AM
    KBC
    OK,while you are pointing your finger at him(them),the other 3 fingers on your hand are pointing where? Right back at you.

    What is your roll in this,there are always 2 sides to every story, you can't be 100% victim 100% of the time, sorry,it doesn't work that way.You must be doing something your brother-in-law and sister(?In law?) don't approve of.

    Care to share?
  • May 29, 2010, 09:01 AM
    talaniman

    You have been putting up with them for 2 years? What else is going on, and why are you still there??
  • Jun 1, 2010, 08:29 AM
    I wish

    Find another job. It's not easy to mix family and business together. You already tried it out for 2 years and it didn't work. There's no reason for you to suffer another 2+ years.
  • Jun 1, 2010, 08:34 AM
    Alty

    Quote:

    now he s making me redundant refusing to pay me
    So you do nothing and you do it for free? Why are you still there?

    Leave, find another job. Obviously this isn't working out and after 2 years I think it's reasonable to assume that it never will work.

    Give them notice, and start looking for work elsewhere.
  • Jun 1, 2010, 10:10 AM
    JBeaucaire

    A couple of times over the years, I've found it far more fulfilling to deliver pizzas for a few months than to put up with someone's crap. The last guy I actually told them that as I walked out the door.
  • Jun 13, 2010, 04:53 PM
    Devorameira

    What do they know that they're holding over your head?

    I'd definitely find another job. It's not fun working with relatives, especially ones that are sort of trying to blackmail you.
  • Jun 13, 2010, 05:14 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Ok, if they owe you pay for hours worked, you report it to the department of labor, ( and/or) sue them in small claims court for your pay
  • Jun 14, 2010, 08:36 AM
    dontknownuthin

    Have to spread rep but I agree with Fr. The personal relationship and work relationship are separate. If you have been working, they have to pay you. If they don't pay, you report them to the Department of Labor, where you can file a claim for unpaid wages.

    As for the threats from the wife we'd need more to go on. What is the exact nature of the threat? If she is blackmailing you, that is against the law and you can go to the police.

    You will loose the job if you pursue this but if they aren't paying you and are blackmailing you, not much of a loss.

    The whole situation sounds like there's a lot you're not telling us. The devil is in the details, so let us know more completely what is going on, please.

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