There is this amazing girl. The first thing that I noticed about her was that she has a beautiful smile. She is Christian, and on top of that, she acts like one. She treats everyone equally. My problem is that I can get very nervous when I am near her. She and my sister are very good friends, and my sister completely understands how I feel. We were discussing the issue yesterday, and my sister said that I need to lay everything out and tell her how I really feel. EOG's are over, so school ends in two weeks. I don't even necessarily want to date her, seeing that we are frineds, and I wouldn't want to jeporodize that. I want to be able to talk to her straight up, but I don't want her to get the wrong idea either.

Before you tell her how you feel, why don't you figure out what you want first?

Do you want a romantic relationship with her? If you do, then be honest about your feelings with her and see how she responds. There's no guarantee that she will like you back, but you won't know until you ask.

If you want to preserve the friendship, then why are you thinking about telling her how you feel? Telling her how you feel does not guarantee that you'll be able to stay friends.

However, if you're only friends with her in hopes that she will fall for you, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. What kind of friendship is that?

So decide what you want and be prepared to face the possible consequences. Otherwise, you're just dragging out this uncertainty and that's no fun for you.

You can show interest just by being friendly, and talking, without revealing your whole soul to her. What's the hurry? You don't seem to know what your doing, or what you want, so go slow, and just enjoy the friendship, until you figure it out for yourself, and are comfortable with expressing it.

Plus you may get clues as to how she may feel about you. The thing is talk until you both are comfortable with each other.

As mentioned before, there is an amazing girl that I am interested in. I want to flirt, but I don't want to feel uncomfortable while doing it, niether do I want to go over the top with it. I particularly would prefer a female to answer this question, so I can get my info. from a full perspective. Thank you.

Personally, I've always liked a guy with a great sense of humour who could make me laugh. Keep it lighthearted and fun... don't come on too strong, and definitely not suggestive... that can often turn creepy and just plain obnoxious.

If you have something in common, that gives you a great lead to talk about. She will know you are interested by the time you spend talking with her... your interest will just naturally be evident. Once you have had a conversation, some laughs, tell her how much you liked talking with her and ask her out! Fingers crossed for you!

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Originally Posted by DoulaLC

Personally, I've always liked a guy with a great sense of humour who could make me laugh. Keep it lighthearted and fun....don't come on too strong, and definitely not suggestive....that can often turn creepy and just plain obnoxious.

If you have something in common, that gives you a great lead to talk about. She will know you are interested by the time you spend talking with her...your interest will just naturally be evident. Once you have had a conversation, some laughs, go ahead and tell her how much you liked talking with her and ask her out! Fingers crossed for you!

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Thanks for the advice! :)

Flirt with a girl? Spend time with her, laugh at her jokes, ask questions, pay special attention to her, stand close to her, etc. The questions you ask should come naturally. I feel that if a guy doesn't have any questions to ask or the conversation doesn't flow, it's because he's not interested or the chemistry is wrong.

There was this girl at my camp this summer when I first saw her she was like something I've never seen before she was magnificent words can't describe and now she's going to college next year so I'm not sure if I'll se her ever but maybe in the future if I get the chance our hearts will meet in the end