So , I have this friend , she's awsome , I love her with all my heart , but not just lately , but since grade 4 , all she seems to care about , is being cool . I know , it sounds stupid , but she thinks that people actually care about popularity . We are in Middle School , and as long as you have friend, your fine . But she doesn't realize that if she ditched her real friends for people she Thinks , are cool , she will loose us . Example , Im not that good friends with a girl , her name is Mikayla , more of a buddy to me then good friend . So , there's four girls, but I don't look at things from that self centered point of view . So , all four of us are in a circle talking , looking at our cellaphones , sharing , blah blah blah . And there's no space , so my friend , TOTALLY ignores me , and she talking to Catlin and Mikayla , hoping they won't notice , that she is BUDGING ME OUT . She was pushing me out , and I thought " Should I take her BS , I have for years , should I let her push me out ?" But no , I'm a coward to lose her . So , I moved aside . Stuff like this is always happening , she always tries to mae me jelous , and it doesn't work . I just see her patheticly . She needs to grow up , learn that she not that cool , and she's not that beautiful , and she needs to see that she's hurting me . She is not my best friend , I thought she was , but best friends are trusting , and tell each other stuff . She doesn't tell me crap , and I feel I can't trust her with anything , after I tried to trust her , she let me down , and told people . Should I keep her as a friend ?

Sounds like she lacks confidence.

Have you tried talking to her privately about her behavior? Usually real friends will listen or at least discuss it with you.

I don't think a person can get too many friends, but if you can't trust her and she mistreats you, it may be time to give up on trying to be her friend.

Don't allow her to intimidate you. When she tries to push you out of the circle you need to stand firm with your friends. You don't have to be mean about it, just go on talking to your friends.

Hope everything works out for you.

Talk to her and see what she says and if she acts the same way then just end the friendship. But you got to understand though she may have emotional or physical problems. And if she does try to help her.

But we have such a grreat time together !

Then talk to her about how you feel and how she feels. And where both of you are coming from. If she has some issues try to help her out. But then again if she acts the same way. I wouldn't advise you two to be friends. Think about it.

She's not the one to stand up to , she talks behind your back if she's mad at you . I don't know if I want a friend like that . But , she's so fun to be around , and I love her .

Look back at what you have written: she can't be trusted, you have taken her BS for years, she tries to make you jealous, she pushes you out, she's more interested in being popular, and she has hurt your feelings... more than once.

So you stay friends with her because she is fun? Other people can be fun and also treat you better.

Sometimes friends will be in your life for awhile and then things change... people go in different directions. It can happen suddenly, but it often just happens over time. New friends are made who meet the needs that you have at that time.

Maybe enjoy the memories of the fun times you had together before, but look to other friends, who you can trust more, to spend more time with. You don't have to stop being friendly to her, you just don't have to try and be best friends with her at this point.

I would just stop being the girls friend.