we have been in a relationship for 3 yrs. And it just seems to get worse. We do not have a sex life but he can watch porn all night long. Even though he knows I disapprove.now he calls me name all the time and says I do nothing but sit on my ? I feel like he's freaking with my head and really he wants out too. But we live off my money?

So...

What keeps you here? Time spent on the relationship?

I find it ironic he calls you lazy but you support him financially.

Cut this sucker loose.

You don't need a "man" that expects you to take care of him like a mother, and you certainly don't need one that can't see the benefits of a loving, sexual relationship (with a woman's beautiful curves, mind you) vs. one with his hand.

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Originally Posted by kp2171

so...

what keeps you here? time spent on the relationship?

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Pretty please?

What exactly is he contributing to the relationship? Doesn't sound like anything financially or emotionally to me.

I'd definitely cut him loose. If you are keeping both of you, you can surely afford to live even better on your own.

If he doesn't have any money, well too bad... maybe he'll need to get off his behind and find a job.

Dump him. You can do bad by yourself, and save your money too.

Why waste effort, money and time on someone who doesn't deserve or appreciate it?

I'm sure you can do better.

I know it's difficult when everyone's telling you to dump him, because sometimes inside there are such strong feelings for this person DESPITE what he does and how he acts towards you, and despite the fact you know in yourself that this isn't really right. I had people telling me for ages to leave mine (who was difficult in different ways)... and I just couldn't go through with it, because I wasn't ready yet. And then, gradually, I began to realise it for myself, and realise that people don't change and that he would be this way FOR EVER, and that me sitting here crying every night is going to do no good because I'll just be crying for the rest of my life if I stayed with him whilst things got worse, so in order to make things better I had to get out, go through the awful pain, and live with the hope that one day I will meet someone who treats me with ALL the respect I deserve (not just some of it).

It is SO SO hard because I am going through the break up at the moment, but first you have to believe it's the right thing in yourself, and be true to yourself by knowing it's wrong and that you need to give yourself a better life and stop trying to please your other half whilst neglecting yourself. You wouldn't be on this site unless you were stressed, worried and wondering what to do to make things better, so I think you already really know.