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  • May 27, 2010, 11:12 AM
    lisalo
    What does my husband's taste in porn say about him
    My husband likes to watch interacial porn, black men having sex with white women. We are both white. When I asked him about it, he said looking at a white man"s penis man him feel uncomfortable. I'm confused.
  • May 27, 2010, 11:37 AM
    smoothy

    All it means is its what tickles his fancy at this moment.

    I know women that like seeing man on man sex... absent any kissing... and they are the most reserved people you would ever meet, etc...

    Usually its something at least a little different than what the individual gets daily.

    Sure you might really love vanilla Ice Cream... but because you like some chocolate, rocky road or whatever from time to time doesn't mean you like vanilla any less.
  • May 27, 2010, 11:48 AM
    hheath541

    Maybe he's somehow equated white men in porn with watching someone he knows having sex. Or maybe the difference in color makes him feel less threatened and less likely to compare himself to the actor. Maybe it makes it easier for him to focus on the woman, and ignore the man.

    I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's just porn. People often watch porn that involves people or actions they would never pursue in real life. There's just something he finds easier to watch about it. It doesn't have to mean anything.
  • May 27, 2010, 04:34 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Agreed, we all have different tastes, I perfer not to watch it at all, but may have personal habits that are not for everyone. So it tells nothing about him, expect that he perfers it.
  • May 28, 2010, 07:55 AM
    talaniman

    You could just ask him why it makes him uncomfortable.
  • May 28, 2010, 08:19 AM
    CravenMorhead

    If I were to go all Freudian on this I would say that he has an unhealthy attraction to his mother. Er... never mind. (That was a joke.)

    I would say that it is an ego and self image thing. A man's penis size is probably one of his greatest insecurities. His woman can say that he is huge, satisfies her like no other, hits the right spot, or any other compliment, but, like any other insecurity, he might find it hard to believe you.

    There is, unfounded as it might be, a common belief that Black men have big penises. Like the usual joke, hung like a baby, 8lbs 10oz 20".

    Putting it together. He could be insecure about his penis size and because he 'knows' that black men are bigger, it is okay to watch interracial porn because he won't be jealous of the actor's penis size. He will rationalize that the porn star's penis is bigger because he is black, whereas watching a white man will cause him to think that he is small because the actor is average.

    I hope that makes sense.

    Sometimes, though, a cigar is just a cigar. It's what strikes his fancy. Goodness knows I got through Asian, chubby, Black, Hairy, Shaved, interracial, etc... phases in my porn viewing.
  • May 28, 2010, 11:22 PM
    LJDK

    It could be the contrast of a black shlong and a white cookie.
    Making the detail more observable or vibrant. That's why I sometimes like to watch interacial porn. Easier to see what's going on when its not hi-def.

    Doesn't mean anything really.
  • May 28, 2010, 11:27 PM
    gerardob01

    It might just be a fetish of his nothing to really worry about don't think...

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