I am 19 I have a boyfriend who demands for sex, but I don't want to have sex now because I am still a virgin, how can I say no?

If you don't want to have sex with him and if he keeps pushing for it there maybe you should not be him if he can't respect your body.

Soon (if he already haven't) he is going try that "if you love me" line you would do it. No means no and I respect your choice and so should he.

Also, you wanted to know how to say "no" it is easy. Just open your mouth and say "NO".

How old is he and how long have you been a couple?

Explain to him that you aren't ready for a sexual relationship. If you can give him reasons that may help him understand your view point. If he continues to 'demand' sex, then it may be time to decide if this is a relationship you want to be in. He will have to decide if not having sex is a reason for him to leave the relationship.

You should not feel pressured to do anything you aren't ready for. Just be clear and don't give him any mixed signals.

You say NO, and if he can't understand it, get a boyfriend who does. He doesn't have to know you're a virgin either, that's NOT his business, unless he last long enough to earn your trust, and confidence.

I agree, don't let him push you into it, I know people who have said yes, and once they have done it, the boy just goes off and leaves her feeling crap, it will happen. And if you do it you will regret it for a long time. You have to find someone who is patient. Just wait for the right person, this one seems to just be selfish.

You shouldn't have to say "no" more than once.

Date someone else.

Just be honest with him. If he can't respect your wishes, then show him the door.

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Originally Posted by helle A

how can i say no?

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Hello h:

The same way you've been doing it. It's working, right?

excon

If he "demands" sex, he's not worth your time. If that is something that you are not ready for and not ready to let him be that first time then don't. He demands again and uses the all too familiar line "if you love me you will" tell him if you loved me then you would respect me and show him the way out. There are other guys out there that would respect your wishes of not having a sexual relationship until you are ready. If the right guy comes along and respects you and loves you for you, see where it goes from there. No girl deserves to be pressured into sex. Best wishes!

This is not a tough question to answer because the bottom line is pretty clear; if you don't want to have sex you don't have to, so just say no. That's just the way it works.

It's your body and you are totally within your rights to just say no. The decision to have sex or not to have sex is a very personal one and nobody should ever try to make you feel like you are doing something wrong by wanting to abstain.

The fact that you just don't want to have sex is a very, very good reason and no further explanation is needed. Your boyfriend has no good reason to expect you to have sex with him.

Just tell him you don't want to have sex. If he can't respect that then show him the door.

Sex is not a proof of love. It is not a test of your commitment in a relationship. It is a very personal choice to share yourself with another person and it should never be taken lightly.