A little background to begin with. My girlfriend texts me all day saying how much she loves me and misses me and can't wait to see me. Even today she asked me to go to where she works so she could just hold me for an hour since we hadn't seen each other in 3 days. Anyway, I went and she got upset about me not telling her the day before that her shirt was revealing everything when she bent over. We had a dance class together during our lunch hours and I noticed at the beginning of class, but by the time class was over and we were parting ways so we could get back to work, I had forgotten about it. So, she got mad that I "allowed" her to go through the day not realizing it. So she just go out of my car and walked into her work and has ignored me ever since. Every time she gets upset about anything she does this. Won't answer texts for hours. Is this her way of dealing with things or something else, because it all it does is really make me angry and the longer she goes ignoring me the more angry I get at her because I feel as though it is childish and immature behavior.

In addition, we do not argue about anything. She just tends to get upset at things like this that I don't understand why, but some things just make her mad that wouldn't bother me at all, nor female friends of mine that I have run the scenarios by. Finally, she will text eventually and act like nothing happened. As if OK she is over it now I can talk to her again.


I should have said that we hadn't seen each other for the exception of a 1 hour dance class the day prior.

I have no clue why she does it, but she does so maybe you better wait for her to cool off and talk to you.

How old are you, and how long have you been together? I guess you don't argue since she always runs away from you when she is mad.



Seems you have been managing her quirk so far.

Wow... no offense but this sounds like a bit of a maturity thing. For her, I mean. Maybe she's just never really learned to share her feelings in an open and healthy way. I would say maybe you should talk to her about why she never wants to talk about it or work through it but she might run. Sorry, bro. Good luck.

Sounds to me like she doesn't know how to deal with problems... Instead of taking her part in the blame... I mean she was the one wearing the revealing clothing... she'd rather make you feel bad about it until your so fed up with her ignoring you that you just let the situation go. You might just end up being controlled by this woman's or girls emotions in the future or you might already be under her control. Anyway you need to stand up for yourself and let her know this ignoring you crap is unacceptable amd she needs to outgrow it asap because its getting annoying and eventually your not going to care anymore and you will just ignore her too... And you know what that leads to

Sounds like she needs to grow up more before even having a relationship. Ignoring the situation until it's forgotten is childish.

She does sound a little childish? Is this the first relationships she's been in? Do you guys ONLY text? Or do you talk on the phone or anything? I'd be curious how old the two of you are too, and how long you've been together. It does seem that you seem to be handling it OK so far, but it wouldn't hurt just to sit down with her and tell her that it's OK for her to talk to you when she's upset. My brother was with a girl for over 2 years. They never used to fight either, but sometimes that can be the calm before the storm. She left him and he had no idea it was coming because she would never talk to him about things when she got upset. I know we all say this all the time on this site, but communication is HUGE in a relationship.

When she talks to you next. Have a talk to her and say she needs to start talking to you. I used to find it hard to talk to my boyfriend about issues so he would get me to write it down. Once I had written it down he would ask me to read it to him. Slowly I would get better at talking to him and not need to write it down. Maybe try this with her?

Be careful what you wish for! I have been in a relationship for a few years with a man that seems to specialise in obfuscating even when there are important life and death decisions to be made. Despite my attempts to talk things through in a rational level headed way he continues to behave in exactly the same way. The only time he appears to notice that something is wrong is when I fall silent through bloomin' exhaustion! There is only so much talking that anyone can do no matter how level headed you may be.