hello my name is veronica i am 17 and i am 6 months pregnant. i am engaged to a 21 yr old man and he is happy he is going to have a kid,but i am having 2nd thoughts about him and i am thinking of leaveing him but i dont know how to tel him that because he is in love with me!He constantly is yelling at me, hiting me and accussing me of cheating on him and it is just going out of control and i dont know what to do!sombody please help me make a decision!!!!thank you so much!:)

Honey, if he is hitting you and yelling at you he is not in love with you.

If this is the case it is abuse, he could be arrested for this. In hitting you he is also endangering the life of your child. Are you prepared to lose the child by staying with him? I didn't think so.

You need to get out of this abusive relationship sooner rather than later.

I am going to move this thread to the Relationship board so that you will get some wonderful advice.

Leave now.

By staying, you not only put yourself in danger, but the life of your unborn child.

He does NOT love you. If he did, causing you pain would be the last thing on his mind.

LEAVE NOW!

Abuse does not equate to Love!

You must remove yourself and your unborn child from this dangerous situation.

Leave him!

Call the police and make a report and have this bum arrested. The life you save will be yours and your unborn child. Sorry This Is ABUSE, not love, I don't care what he calls it. (Or you call it for that matter)

It always disturbs me to learn that a young lady has been abused to the point to where "violence" becomes "love". It's quite sad...

Ask yourself this question... If he shows his "love" for you in this manner, how do you suppose he will show his love for your child??

It's one thing for you to make the decision to stay in such an abusive relationship for so long; however, your child will not have that choice.

I believe you are finally starting to realize that this is not "nice" behavior coming from your boyfriend, and I'll add that it's not "love" either.

You are making a brave move and I feel that it's important for you to do so in-order to protect yourself and your child from further abuse.

Do you have any support friends/family to help you during your pregnancy and with the baby after he/she arrives?

Kae

Oh my goodness!! Ma cherie there isn't a scrap of love in a man who gets a 17 yr. old girl pregnant and then (or while) when she is carrying his child abuses her so violently. This man is a control freak and an abuser. Please, for the sake of yourself and your child leave this man!

Leaving him is the BEST option and I would advise enlisting the help of the police as well as any family members. All you have to do is file a report with the police and tell them that you are in fear of your life and that this man is scaring you.

Homicide is the leading cause of death among pregnant women in the world! Be prepared for your gf-beater jerk-coward of a man to be exceedingly violent should you openly declare that your wish to leave.

The best advice I would give you is to drop everything and leave. Don't tell him or anyone he is in contact with that you are leaving... just DO IT. Make sure that all methods of contact that he could possibly have with you are severed so that he can't come after you.

Normally, I would advise staying with family and friends, but in this instance it is very likely that he knows where all of these people live and will assume that you are staying with them. Are there any battered women shelters, churches or other people that you know independently of him that are aware of the situation and are willing to put you up for a while?

Please respond back with a post-- I am very eager to help you and I think you know what we are saying is true.

God bless you.

~Kitty~