I'm sixteen, and in my first serious relationship with an eighteen year old. I mean, I had little relationships throughout middle school and my freshman and sophomore years, but nothing like this. He, however, had a girlfriend last year with whom he did everything. He brought her to family events, on vacations, and basically everything he does with me.
Before my current boyfriend, I was a virgin, and had done hardly anything with boys. He lost his virginity to his ex, and just thinking about it kills me.
I never thought I would love anyone this early in life, but I really am in love with this kid, and we both know that we want to be together for the rest of our lives. He says that he never really loved his ex, and he only told her he did once or twice. I don't get why he let her take his virginity if that's true. It kills me to think about this.
He always apologizes for it, and I know that he really means it, and that he truly regrets it, but it still bothers me. I can never get the image of them doing it out of my head. I'm constantly wondering if I'm ever going to be as good as her (even though he tells me I'm way better), or if he's ever going to want to go back to her because she was his first.
It also really bothers me because he was really good with his family and they loved her, and it makes me nervous to be around them because I want them to like me more than her.
I NEED HELP GETTING OVER THIS!
I swear, it's going to be the death of me! I am truly in love with my boyfriend, but his past is getting in the way. I can only imagine how great our relationship would be if it weren't for that girl.

How long since he broke up with his ex and how long have you two been dating?

Honestly, if you are having sex at 16 you need to be able to forgive others for not being virgins. While you think you want to spend the rest of your life with this young man, the odds of that happening are not good. You've said he's the first serious boyfriend you've ever had. We all felt equally close to our first serious significant others... most of us did not end up with them in the long haul.

A lot of things interfere - he could leave for college, or you could, or one of your parents could get transferred, or one of you could loose interest - or he could get tired of his girlfriend questioning his feelings all the time (which you are doing right now). You could meet someone else, like he did when he met you, and find that you like that person even MORE than this guy. You won't expect it because, well, you had no reason to think there was more out there - you don't have enough life experience!

Do you feel guilty for dating other boys before you met him, or kissing them? Why would you do that if you didn't feel the same for them that you do for current boyfriend? Easy - you didn't know how you would feel in the future about someone you hadn't dated yet. Neither did he.

You are having your first serious relationship with a boy who has more experience than you.
I'm not understanding why you are so insecure. Do you suspect he still has feeling for this girl? How long between you and this girl? He has a history with her you don't, he will more than likely go away to school or work and leave you behind, how are you going to handle that?

I think you are too serious about his guy, having sex will do that to you which is why young girls should not be doing it.
Stop the sex, build a some trust and a relationship based on trust.

This is your first relationship, and its with an older more experienced guy so of course you feel like a fish out of water. You have no experience with guys to make you feel confident in yourself, and all you see is the down side to everything.

You may be mistaking those intense feelings of attraction for love, and it may well be, but you are so carried away you want perfection, and its NOT, because you are to worried about his ex, so you are trying to compete with a ghost. Crazy isn't it? But its not her its you, so relax and enjoy, and stop letting fear keep you from being happy with what you have.

My first and only relationship started this way. He has had a couple past relationships with women of which he did sleep with. I knew that before we got serious and I gave my virginity up to him as well. The fact that he had been with other women really bothered me but Ive come to understand that the past is the past and he loves me now. He only loves me and that is how I got over his past. I also have come to be thankful to the women in his life before me because they helped him to become this amazing man that is perfect for me. Look to the future with him. Forget what others say about you two staying together. Im due to marry my first love so if its meant to be it will.

I am 15 and my boyfriend is 18. We have been close for 8 years. He was my first kiss at the age of 7. He lost his virginity too. But you just have to think of it this way, he DID lose it to her, but he's a guy. Guys can't wait forever. So, don't worry about it. If you worry it will only get worse. Me and my boyfriend fight all the time, you just have to deal with it.